Your Inner Child wants to be protected—to know that you will stand up for your Deep Sensitivity every single time. It takes a grown-up to love that fiercely.
Essence + Spirituality
How your relationship with your Inner Child affects every part of your life.
I had a hard time seeing how my “inner child” was having an effect on my grown-up life. I didn’t get it, didn’t want to get it. Now I really get it—so glad I get it. My interaction with my Inner Child has become one of the most important—and empowering—relationships of my life.
This is not a course. This is a nourishment system.
I know that your heart burns with sacred love.
I know you. Because I’ve been you. I am you. I also know how to turn procrastination into a power move. And I know how to keep waking up without beating ourselves up. (Steady devotion. Deep compassion. Joy leaning.)
Stay with me.
How do you “give it over to God”? It starts with knowing this: your pain is what God is most urgently interested in—like any parent with their child. “Let’s get this healed so you can go out and play.” When we’re brave enough to bring our pain to the surface, The Divine can take it from there.
The narcissist + the empath. How to have compassion AND healthy standards.
Pulling off the New Age blinders and getting out of toxic situations…
How to be classy when things don’t work out as expected
Loss brings out our truest self. And while grace doesn’t come naturally to all of us—especially when we lose—it can be cultivated… if you go out of your way to be grateful. Let me tell you a story. It all starts in the ladies room, in a snowy city, five minutes before my curtain call…
When you can’t have a direct conversation, go for the Higher Self.
When things are brutally difficult with somebody, sometimes the healthiest thing is to have a non-verbal, encouragement convo. When you can’t safely/bravely express yourself in this material realm, then use an esoteric channel—speak to the other person’s Higher Self.
Heart-centered manifesting: plans that also serve the collective.
It’s too late in the day, and too hot, crowded, and a little too painful on the planet, to be focused solely on personal attainment. Reach for the dream job, healthy bod’, love of your life—AND incorporate other people’s wellness in your vision. This is a heart-centered how-to.
“Don’t get caught up in the despair.” Sacred activism council from Charles Eisenstein. We all need this. Now.
Please pause and absorb this as an act of social and ecological service. And from this paradigm of interbeingness, more deeply consider how we can—and will—create, as Charles is known to say, “the more beautiful world our hearts know is possible.”
Our language around “busyness.” And why it matters so much.
Whatever is on your plate got there because you said yes to it—in the fullness of ambition and desire and wanting to eat life whole.
Spirituality for grown-ups
In “Spirituality for grown-ups” (Eps 1), we’re exploring the definition of spirituality… one that’s more rock ‘n’ roll than religious. More liberating than dogmatic. A definition of spirituality that allows us to be more gentle with ourselves; that embraces duality and nuance; that promotes self-agency, Real Love, and inclusiveness, and JOY.
This episode is especially for globally concerned deep-feelers. If you’re a worrier… you’re not alone. I have my own frets… Am I making myself accessible enough, but still boundaried in a healthy way? Am I effective enough? (I think about this daily.) Have I done no harm? Have I shook shit up sufficiently? The list goes on… because the more of a deep-feeler you are, the longer the list of things you feel. But I wouldn’t have it any other way.
A few things I Had to Learn On My Own About Birth and Motherhood
I’m passionate about birth wellness—all stages, all options. Creating an educational program on conscious birth has been on my to-do list, but now that Schuyler Grant has created Empowered Birth, I can chill. This is a beautiful offering that the world will be better for.
Don’t freak the f*ck out about Mercury Retrograde—just be conscious of it.
Here’s a supercrash astro course, should you care: Mercury is the planet that governs all types of Communication, as master astrologer Susan Miller elaborates, this includes, “listening, speaking, learning, reading, editing, researching, negotiating, selling, and buying.
Let the Love in. Because, “It’s an honour to help you.”
When you need back-up on your divine petitions, give someone the honour of lending you their faith.
A Manifesting Practice that takes your whole self into consideration. Virtues + Clarity + Steadiness.
Manifesting is an art and a science—and you have to leave a lot of room for mystery, while upholding your Faith. No one has THE way. Life is complex. But here’s everything I’ve been given from masterful teachers over the years, and practiced myself with some exquisite results.
The first time I’ve spoken about the “living death” I experienced last year—may this help your own heart
This is the first time I’ve publicly spoken about the “living death” I experienced in the Fall of 2018. I went to the darkest place of my being—panic attacks, identity crisis, loss, disillusionment and… incredible awe. GRACE.
Find your future in your present—so you can grow it.
Here’s a beautiful notion to consider: You already have a lot of what you want, in places you may have overlooked, in different packaging than you may have expected, and hidden in plain sight.
SPIRITUALITY IS… Dirty. Obsessive. Deeply concerned. Scabs, shame, transmutation, wet kisses, the holy cross, desperation. Presence. The birth canal. Time bender…
Anxiety and fear, mercy and bliss.
It’s lying to yourself until the needle of Truth pierces your life and stitches you whole.
Spirituality is doing the dishes and looking for your phone.
THIS is the (r)evolution that we need. Open up.
We live in trying times. Our attention spans, bodies, and spirits are getting stretched out of proportion. It’s not sustainable. As a collective, many have strayed from the wisdom of the heart-brain.
The in-between place you’re in. It’s real.
The in-between is uncomfortable and agitating. And slightly erotic—creative tension is like that. The polarities of what was and what could be, of holding your breath while you long to exhale.
Try this when you’re unclear about what you want. (Your invite is inside.)
We all want to know our true power, to make clear decisions. You can’t over-think your way out of confusion and into clarity (that’s called spinning your wheels). You have to feel your way into it. Your intelligence is in your heart center.
When you get through the big pain, this is what happens: Near-blinding radiance.
You will have more to give—and you will LOVE giving it. You will seek to give. It will be the most incredible feeling. Someone is going to come to you with a broken wing, or low on reserves and you are going to have so much love and insight to offer them.
What “shadow work” really is. (Calling all wounded warriors.)
Your shadow is where your wounds hide, waiting for the light of your attention. It’s the stuff beneath the distractions of workaholism and comparison and bravado.
The problem with manifestation techniques and what that psychic told you. (Plus 9 principles for predicting and manifesting.)
The problem with a lot of prediction + manifestation techniques is that we tend to forget that other humans are involved in our manifesting. And we can’t control other humans — as much as we’d LOVVVE to.
To trust in your goodness is the ultimate success.
At the end of an interview, it’s common to be asked the big finale question: “Tell our listeners how to get unstuck. Give us three secrets to happiness. What’s THE most useful thing you’ve learned?” No pressure.
Spiritual practice won’t stop shitty things from happening to you. However…
Yoga isn’t going to make you impervious to criticism — because criticism bites. Meditation doesn’t make divorce less brutal — because divorce is rough no matter how it goes down. Green juice won’t keep the creep at work away — creeps like to creep. And prayer will not make your illness less intense to deal with — physical burdens are…burdensome.
The Principles of Active Waiting vs. feeling-like-a-loser, losing-your-mind kind of waiting…
Regard the waiting period as an opportunity.
I’ve always prayed. To heal. To have. I pray for people I love and people I have a hard time liking. I’ve sat in prayer circles petitioning rain and for someone’s cancer to dissolve. I know dozens of prayers from various faiths. I’ve published prayers. Danced them. Sang them. Sweat them. In reverence, in shock, in exquisite thanks.
I pray differently now.
Thank you for your exquisite suffering (How to show gratitude for being saved by someone.)
How can you thank another human for that Holy showing?
Your life is beyond words.
But now that you are stronger, reach deep into the natural order of things
and with your hewn respect
thank them for their own exquisite suffering.
I’m in awe of your heart-work.
Dear Coaches, Teachers, Counselors… People who serve. If you’re in the business of Soul-work and service, how do take care of yourself?