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One of my favourite interviews. If you haven’t “gotten” Desire Mapping yet — this is where I lay out the key steps.
This is one of my favourite interviews with one of my favourite people. Marie Forleo and I get all Jersey Girl, definitely deep, and as always, real, on goal setting and Desire….
The journey has to feel the way you want the destination to feel.
Freedom does not come from a checklist, and a ‘zero inbox’ is not a life aspiration.If liberation is a chore, it’s not really liberation. You can’t contract your way to freedom. You can’t punish your way to joy. You can’t fight your way to inner peace. The journey has to feel the way you want the destination to feel…
Name your god
Listen to me
I am one of you
desirous broken open perpetual…
Use your dissatisfaction to start a personal revolution
Gratitude, joy, anticipation … all powerful forces for positive mind-states and manifesting goodness in your life. And then there’s dissatisfaction, heartache, resentment. And guess what… those are also powerful forces for positive mind-states and manifesting goodness in your life. Yep. Because those emotions are real. They are part of your wholeness. They count.
Gorgeous, gritty, vibrant, black & white, four colour, luminous …. joy. What’s it look like to you?
Capture an image of joy. Your version of it. Whatever trips the joy circuits in your psyche and body. Show us. Grab your iPhone and snap it now, or pull it from your Pinterest board, or reach into your archives. Post a joy visual, tag it with #DesireMap — and help us see with our hearts how to rise to life.
Actually, you’re the guru. Notes on resonance and respect.
It’s all about resonance. Teachers (and they come in all forms) hold up a mirror for you in just the right light, at just the right moment, and you just happen to catch YOUR reflection in it. They are strumming chords that are strung in your heart.
Your relationship to destruction & Goddess Kali.
You know — right this very minute — what’s not working in your life. You don’t have to think about it for too long. The question is: How do you feel about destroying what must be destroyed in your life?
A few thoughts & actions that will help you open up more.
Look at how your beliefs have shifted. How do you see the world differently now? What do you trust in more? Where did you used to scrimp where now you luxuriate?
How I revolutionized my relationship to “doing”: Meet The Divine Medicine Woman & The Impeccable Street Sweeper
I began to create the inner — and outer — conditions that helped me make “my medicine”, my art, my best work… I had to sledgehammer some mental structures. I unstrapped years of “shoulds” off my back — and I found wings – massive wings.
We need to know about your joy. (And other conversations of fulfillment.)
We need you to tell us your good news. Tell us how deeply in love you are. Tell us how your life is rocking. How free you are these days. Tell us how wonderful your family is. We need you to light up our realities. Don’t shrink from sharing the story of your good fortune. Give us examples of well-loved living. Give us evidence of the rewards of courage, that it pays to hold out, or to go wild, or to burn prayer candles…
How you can ask for—and receive—cosmic guidance
Guidance doesn’t have to come as a lightning strike or as a white dove on your fire escape, looking you in the eye. Guidance can be (and I think it usually is), those notions that you can’t get out of your mind. Persistent wonderings, recurring names, places, things—gentle heart cues…
the Dalai Lama looked me in the eye and said, women rule! (in so many words)
A little story to start the weekend… TO INDIA WE GO Just about to turn thirty, I was given a rare opportunity to have a private audience with His Holiness The Dalai Lama. “Hey kid,” my boss said on the other end of the phone, “I think I’ve got us a meeting with the...
Why I burned my journals & celebrate my insignificance.
I burned about 20 years of journals. Pages and pages of gut-red poetry and angst; cosmic gorgeousness and tender prayers; lists of wants, boyfriends (a loose term), and favourite perfumes. With every page I fed into the fireplace, I smiled. Thank you. Goodbye. Hellohhh here & now…
The real you is waiting. In here. Not out there.
You can’t patch your Soul’s truth together with workshops, and a wardrobe, and identity choices. You’ll likely spend half of your life trying to do just that. Composing. Polishing. Packaging. Facing outward, even though it’s all inward. Eventually, you’ll stop looking out there. In the middle of the noise and the obligations it will dawn on you (maybe right now) that the real you emerges…
Be The Giver.
Sometimes it can feel like dreaming of more than what we’ve got betrays our current reality. As if to wish for something different means that we’re unappreciative of what we have. As if to long for a little less of this, or a brighter shade of that denigrates what stands in front of us.
Why affirmations can mess you right up (and what to say to yourself instead.)
Contrived affirmations take you out of the present. Rather than facing what’s real, we try to plaster over the difficult truths with happy thoughts. This is false optimism and it’s damaging. It undermines our capacity to be with what is, and to access our real strength and spiritual maturity. Spiritual maturity includes the capacity to acknowledge our fears while maintaining our confidence and faith…
A love letter with autumn soundtrack.
Leaves are falling and it’s time for a letter. I’m in that creative place where the lion’s share of my new work is done, but there’s still much to do. Metaphorically speaking, it’s like the baby could come at anytime, but there’s still the LABOUR about to happen.
I have not known Shams or oil wells in my living room.No inheritance, nor near death experiences.
The bird reminds me that Joy is worth dying for.
And that in my house there is so very much to worship…
Soul soup. (Keep this in mind when you’re falling apart.)
There will be a time, a passage when you don’t really know who you were, or are, or can be. It’s natural, it’s divine, and it’s the chemistry of beautiful, awesome change. This passage can happen in big dramatic swells, as years of not quite knowing what you want to do; or seasons of confusion that aren’t quite depressing, but confusing enough to invite sadness in…
The beginning of self-expression
There is a sounda flower makes
What’s inflamed in your inner or outer life?
This is a personal question. I don’t expect you to blog about it, or share your answer on Facebook. You might just want to tell yourself, and your best friend, and your guardian angel. What’s chronic, repetitive, or inflamed in your inner or outer life?…
The positivity of pride.
I have never met someone who is living a bold and successful life—and by successful I mean prosperous, kind, and in touch with the meaningfulness of what theyʼre doing — who has apologized for being perfectionistic, mercurial, unrelenting, or whatever their slightly controversial hallmark characteristics are…
Transparency is sexy
Care more about being accurately and precisely who you are, than caring what someone might think about you. Be daring enough to tell us—your customers, your fans, your people—about your deep desires and ambitions…
A question for cleaning your slate.
This is a big topic. Western self-help spirituality is great at getting us to identify our patterns and ‘isms’. After enough how-to books, workshops and therapy we can honorably say, “I’m neurotic because of my mother,” or “I’m a selfish because I didn’t get enough attention as a kid.” But identifying the source of your crap is only half the journey. The other half is composting it into something radically new…
The guy on my street who prays.
Every week or so, I notice this guy on my street sitting on the curb between parked cars. Crossed legged. Spine straight. Facing the same side of the street every time. He’s become our urban Buddha statue, reminding us to be still….
How to deconstruct your fear: an exercise
Getting clear on what you’re scared of can instantly diffuse ticking anxiety bombs and release your creative power.
on one truth
fierce piercing syncopation…
What do you suck at?
When you cop to your shortcomings a number of wonderful things can happen. You become more accessible to the people around you, you invite other people to step up and shine, and you create space for support to come into your life — you actually don’t have to be awesome at everything…
I want to write about savage beasts in jungles of the psyche.
I want to write about savage beasts in jungles of the psyche, the heart, the everyday. I want to write about red ambitions and sloppy ways of getting one’s desires fulfilled and the turmoil of perpetual wanting. I want to write about hunger. Hungry souls…