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Self respect is a spiritual practice.

Self respect is a spiritual practice.

We fight for causes, for relationships, for our children, for our co-workers… but it can be terrifying to fight for ourselves. This is where sisterhood is particularly powerful. When our girlfriends see us over-extending, and they look us in the eye and say, “Stop. You don’t need to do this.”

Shadow work:  bringing it into the light.

Shadow work: bringing it into the light.

Self-compassion is the most powerful light source on the inner shadow. Shine it on the full spectrum of your pain (from the ancient to the recent) and keep loving what you find in the dark. This is good parenting for your soul. Keep looking, keep listening, keep loving your wounds… and your radiance—your inherent, never-leaving, second nature radiance—will astound you.

Spiritual practice won’t stop shitty things from happening to you. However…

Spiritual practice won’t stop shitty things from happening to you. However…

Yoga isn’t going to make you impervious to criticism — because criticism bites. Meditation doesn’t make divorce less brutal — because divorce is rough no matter how it goes down. Green juice won’t keep the creep at work away — creeps like to creep. And prayer will not make your illness less intense to deal with — physical burdens are…burdensome.

Summoning all cosmic beings for support? It’s better if you just focus.

Summoning all cosmic beings for support? It’s better if you just focus.

You know how when you’re really messed up and you reach out to EVERY friend? You text them ALL at once in case the one person you really want to talk to isn’t responding IMMEDIATELY. And then you feel kind of dirty after because you got all frantic and spread your nuttiness around when really, you could have just connected with your one friend who tells you the truth every single time? I think it works the same way with angels and cosmic guides.

D Digest: Recovering from self-help exhaustion, crazy expectations of others, and how being gentle creates very big breakthroughs. The March roundup!

D Digest: Recovering from self-help exhaustion, crazy expectations of others, and how being gentle creates very big breakthroughs. The March roundup!

How gentleness creates the big breakthrough The most powerful pain remedy, elixir, solution, galvanizer, waker-upper, injection of strength is…gentleness. When you’re hammering yourself for being in pain again, gentleness is actually a breakthrough. 6 opinions on...