We can soapbox, we can motivate, we can even convince people to see and do things our way. But even if someone chooses the more “evolved action” you’re suggesting, it doesn’t mean that they’ve just taken an evolutionary leap.
For learning discernment
Defining “Spiritual bypassing.” Overused and misused but still… very useful.
Taking planetary alignments into consideration, bringing love into politics, and nature consciousness into commerce is not spiritual bypassing. That’s spiritual practice.
Cognitive dissonance and our luminosity
If you’re paying attention to your choices, you’ll cognitive dissonance pang once in a while. And it can be a smidge shamey. But when you apply compassion to that sensation it shows itself as your conscience. And it’s a signal to get into alignment with your higher nature. Either examine and change your perspective, or shift your actions.
Self respect is a spiritual practice.
We fight for causes, for relationships, for our children, for our co-workers… but it can be terrifying to fight for ourselves. This is where sisterhood is particularly powerful. When our girlfriends see us over-extending, and they look us in the eye and say, “Stop. You don’t need to do this.”
Self doubt. Self agency. And burning your journals.
I’ve tried recapitulation and obsessive, neurotic over-attachment as a means to self-improvement. Funnily enough, it doesn’t seem to work.
What you’re attracted to will change as you heal.
As you heal (read: apply compassion to your pain; forgive some people; turn anxiety into insight), what you’re attracted to is going to change.
THINGS TO LOVE ABOUT YOURSELF (partial list only, please spend the rest of your life adding to this)
Love your: Resistance desires Godliness abandonment issues fire-in-your-belly vision simple happiness preferences. And other things.
My “give it up” list. Feel free to make it yours.
It’s always a good time to let go of whatever is holding you back. Here are some micro monumental suggestions.
3 very big lies we fall for on the way to waking up.
We’ve got to fall for some lies to get to our truth… These are the lies that dogma, false power, and all kinds of commercial industries are built on. And many of us have built our spiritual lives on one of these shaky foundations. This is a wake up call.
Body image, boundaries, divorce. Holy Q&A.
Divorce? Balance and striving? Longing to help? Your questions are multi-layered and beautifully articulated.
When (not) to give up
This episode is full of contradictions, so if you’re looking for a straight shot—it’s better to look within. As always. I start in the realm of general life stuff, then we move into the deepest possible query: choosing to stay alive.
Grief, memory loss, and the purpose of life… it’s a Q&A Palooza.
I receive so many substantive, well-written, messy, articulate, deep, precise questions. Gives me hope in humanity, actually. In this eps: grief, enlightenment, whether or not we should indoctrinate our children, the meaning of life… you know. Regular stuff.
When “safe distances” restrict our love.
“I’ve gone through my entire life holding everyone at a safe distance… how do I make friends now?” Our fear of judgment prevents us from getting the love that we’re longing for. Twisted, no? But being a stranger to someone doesn’t have to be an impediment to intimacy. This is where courage comes in.
On psychics + clairvoyants. To call or not to call?
I think external psychic input can be extremely valuable for navigating. I’ve had seers on my payroll. And… We can often sense what’s coming ourselves—we just don’t recognize our own power. Free will, free will, free will. And PS: free will.
Suffering. And the radiance you’ll find on the other side.
We can’t instantly LEAP from pain to joy, from suffering to radiance. There are steps—a healing sequence.
Keeping it real and keeping the peace: A few tips for family visits
My fellow grown up, let’s get you centered in your truth and prepped for family gatherings… so you don’t end up in the bathroom drunk-dialing your therapist. I have some ideas for staying sane (and ideally: being your most loving self), even if you want to get the hell out of there.
The dance of self-forgiveness
So many of us grip our mistakes because we never want to make them (and hurt anybody) again. But the moving forward can only happen when you can really forgive yourself. It’s possible. And there’s a sequence to it.
When you feel like you have nothing to offer. (And our obsession with productivity.)
When you feel like you have nothing to offer—TRUST your rhythms. Rest. Regenerate. Do what it takes to be well. Our culture confuses productivity-output-achievement with self-worth.
Create a “What I Trust” list. And exhale.
I’ve gotten in the habit of creating a “What I Trust” list before a big gig, or when any situation feels a bit wobbly. Often we’re so fixated on firing up endorphins, we forget that feeling assured and comforted is where the real power is. Calm and centered is magnetic. So… what do you trust?
Arguing with your inner critic? There’s a much better way.
The first thing to do with that inner critic voice is to have compassion for it. (This is counterintuitive because we live in a performance-based culture that thrives on judgement.) Approach with love—then instead of creating further separation from your heart, you’re building a bridge.
Making new friends as an adult: Tenderness and expansion.
Making new friends—it’s never, EVER too late…
Are we each other’s reflection? Yes. And No.
Are you attracting jerks because you’re a jerk? Maybe. Maybe not. Sometimes the jerk is there to show you how you do NOT want to feel or be treated—because contrast is one of our most powerful teachers. The flipside: what they may be here to illuminate is how you DO want to feel and who you truly are.
Naked prayer.
I’ve always prayed. To heal. To have. I pray for people I love and people I have a hard time liking. I’ve sat in prayer circles petitioning rain and for someone’s cancer to dissolve. I know dozens of prayers from various faiths. I’ve published prayers. Danced them. Sang them. Sweat them. In reverence, in shock, in exquisite thanks.
I pray differently now.
Comparison. Resiliency. True Love.
Comparison. Resiliency. True Love. If you’re in WTF Bootcamp right now—you will get through it. You’re in it because your Soul is up for it.
How to Heal a Fractured Society. Guest post by Hiro Boga.
After I read this sage offering from my beloved friend, Hiro Boga, I emailed her immediately and said: “This is INCREDIBLE. This diamond wisdom gave me deep comfort. It feels like an Answer. So beautiful and clear and right.”
Your esteem and your money.
Your esteem and your money. Here’s a money-saving tip that also happens to be a radical counter-cultural act of defiance.
How to hone your truth detector.
There’s so much faking it to make it and deception happening in every sector of life — from politics to self-improvement. So how can we hone our truth detectors?
A call to Create: Our Bodies are Made to Do This
A Call to Create. This is such a beautiful offering from Rochelle Schiek. She sent it to me at just the right time. I’m using it to dig deeper so I can fly higher. You may want to do the same.
What’s on your List of Things to Give Up? Here’s a peek at mine.
It’s always a good time to let go of whatever is holding you back.
Self-sabotage, the false story that keeps us from our power, and 2018 Planners are ready for you NOW! My July D Digest is here!
Self-sabotage, the false story that keeps us from our power, and 2018 Planners are ready for you NOW! My July D Digest is here!
