Livelihood + Lifestyle

Dream death and the real reason you’re in pain

Dream death and the real reason you’re in pain

Dreams that don’t come true need to be grieved. The dream itself needs to be honoured and buried and mourned. It’s not just about dealing with the pain of not getting what you wanted, it’s about going deeper to look closely at what the dream was actually for. This is a subtle concept we often miss in the healing process when something ends. You see, we’re not always sad for the reasons we think we are…

New, little big deals. Is this the week you do what you’ve been scared of?

New, little big deals. Is this the week you do what you’ve been scared of?

My friend Robindra promised he’d show me some DJ ropes (because I wanna spin and mix and stuff when I grow up). He got a gig in North Van and said I could tag along for the night. So I Facebook’d about it, mentioned the locale, said it was a great way to kick off my birthday week, and I put on my black high tops to head out…

The Book Club Guide is ready! Desire Mappers…UNITE!

The Book Club Guide is ready! Desire Mappers…UNITE!

“You know gentlemen,” Miten said as he strummed his guitar, “I think this lyric speaks to the masculine, to the heart of our sexuality. It’s what we’re here to give the world, you know. So it’s a bit radical, but would all the men in the audience please stand up.” Silence. All the men in the concert hall rise. The women started looking around, behind our seats, next to us, taking it in, softly smiling, nodding to each other, like, “Well THIS should be interesting.” …

Remember, you said Yes to this.

Remember, you said Yes to this.

You’re choosing – all the time. If you’re slogging away at a job you don’t love, look at it this way: you’re choosing to make a living to pay your rent, support your kids, fuel your dreams. Be in the choice of it — that’s where your power is. You’re in a relationship that’s causing you pain — you’re choosing to be in it. Maybe staying will lead to essential growth, or a break through, or deeper love. Or not. But you’re choosing to be in or out. Be in the choice of it — that’s where your power is.