There’s a lot of pressure to be ready now, yesterday, ASAP. Grow achieve push plow crank rank. But you’re ready when you’re ready. Think of all the times you pushed your friends to dump the fool they were with…for years…
Livelihood + Lifestyle
The risky business of being sincere in business
I just moved the closing date of a major business deal for astrological reasons. Our lawyers had already dealt with a lot of back n’ forthing and a last minute twist/untwist. The finish line was in sight, but I was about to yank it. People might be understandably flummoxed. I could have made an excuse for the switch that sounded more, you know, biz legit….
The password for Beloved
There is that place you cannot reach within your singular self on your very own body inside your human person. No matter how you bend or try to scratch it, there is That Place you cannot reach alone.
How to start your day. Mantras, oracles, coconut oil, and desire. (+ 20 product and resources recommendations.)
Good habits feel good. So if it doesn’t feel good, I don’t do it, ‘cause the whole point is to feel good. Right? Right. Here's a list of morning rituals that I mix and match. This happens in between getting my boy off to school (I love making his lunch, cranking the...
Please don’t punish yourself.
It’s hard enough to make your way in a world where you will be judged, daily. To overcome the intentional punishments inflicted by dark mongers; to find the right concoction for emotional wounds; and to rise from the simply deep heartache of not getting what you want — it’s anything but easy.
focus (a poem for sacred prioritizing)
We dance ’round fires
to pray for others to change,
and we change our names
so that a reality we don’t truly want
will let us in the door…
Write this sentence down where you can see it: I am devoted to dreaming about my ideal life.
Dreaming is a solution, a soul elixir for so many emotional ailments. The mere act of dreaming is a life-affirming endeavour. Dream. Envision. Fantasize. Imagine…
You have no jurisdiction here (a poem for boundary-making)
The outline of my being
shines brighter than
agreements I made before now…
Here’s what to do when you’re feeling small. Reframe your power.
What I love the most is truth, and if I’m going to be of service — and I’m devoted to being of service, then I have to tell you: I feel so small today. I see the pain. I see the joy. I see the beauty. I feel the global scope of what’s happening, and… I feel really, really… small…
A big, luscious life comes from small, daily actions
A desire is the interface between you and the future. No desire is meaningless or inconsequential. If it pulls you, even a little bit, it will take everyone higher…
The Shiva Playlist. In Praise of Good, Strong Men.
A strong sense of purpose, holding space for unfolding, takes no shit, lion-hearted Masculinity in sweet devotion to the Divine Feminine…
Females trash-talking males (and why it’s holding us all back)
“Successful” Female is at the podium. She’s giving a talk on how to be “successful” as a woman in business.
I’ve been to a goodly amount of women’s conferences. So much life and power at those events — and sometimes, unfortunately, a big dose of density. It goes like this…
Dream death and the real reason you’re in pain
Dreams that don’t come true need to be grieved. The dream itself needs to be honoured and buried and mourned. It’s not just about dealing with the pain of not getting what you wanted, it’s about going deeper to look closely at what the dream was actually for. This is a subtle concept we often miss in the healing process when something ends. You see, we’re not always sad for the reasons we think we are…
Dive into your psyche. 3 personality tests for introspection.
A good personality test can help reveal the innermost workings of your psyche. Anyone who applies for a job with Team D takes these three tests. And, they’re kind of… fun…
New, little big deals. Is this the week you do what you’ve been scared of?
My friend Robindra promised he’d show me some DJ ropes (because I wanna spin and mix and stuff when I grow up). He got a gig in North Van and said I could tag along for the night. So I Facebook’d about it, mentioned the locale, said it was a great way to kick off my birthday week, and I put on my black high tops to head out…
Comfort zones, truth telling — and by the way, I’m no guru
Here’s what happens when I do a speaking gig. Every time. I try to dispense some luminous #truthbomb and how-to advice — because that’s what I’m there to do…
Want to get unstuck? Maybe it’s time to stop analyzing it.
You can work out your family of origin issues, and neuroses, and past life traumas with your shrink or your shaman. You can talk talk talk it out all day long (I know, I’ve done it.) You can trace the cause of your wounds and why you’re so stuck. But at some point, eventually, who cares WHY you’re stuck…
The Book Club Guide is ready! Desire Mappers…UNITE!
“You know gentlemen,” Miten said as he strummed his guitar, “I think this lyric speaks to the masculine, to the heart of our sexuality. It’s what we’re here to give the world, you know. So it’s a bit radical, but would all the men in the audience please stand up.” Silence. All the men in the concert hall rise. The women started looking around, behind our seats, next to us, taking it in, softly smiling, nodding to each other, like, “Well THIS should be interesting.” …
Remember, you said Yes to this.
You’re choosing – all the time. If you’re slogging away at a job you don’t love, look at it this way: you’re choosing to make a living to pay your rent, support your kids, fuel your dreams. Be in the choice of it — that’s where your power is. You’re in a relationship that’s causing you pain — you’re choosing to be in it. Maybe staying will lead to essential growth, or a break through, or deeper love. Or not. But you’re choosing to be in or out. Be in the choice of it — that’s where your power is.
Break the law, bag the contract, ignore your lawyer, be yourself
For even the most assured and self-referencing person, legalities and money matters are major character testers.
A few guidelines for innovating
When it comes to innovating… Be willing to start over. Be willing to make other people uncomfortable. Be willing to lose money. Be willing to…
May Roundup: Listening, giving & comparing. Notice your energy. Love your sadness.
May 2013 Roundup: What I know about working with people, listening, giving and loving sadness—plus getting to know your creativity pattern.
Affirmations, Accomplishments, and a Dose of Desire: The November Roundup
In November we got real clear on the messiness of affirmations, the guilt we feel towards our dreams, and the promising liberation of the forthcoming Desire Map program.
But will it be worth it when you get there? The feeling of success. (+ a free chapter!)
Epidemically often, we go for the external win at the cost of our internal wellness. Because we don’t value our inner attunement as much as we value outer attainment.
Do it like a maverick. Backing up Tim Ferris and The 4 Hour Chef.
The 4 Hour Chef by Tim Ferris is THE hippest encyclopaedia of life hacking, cooking and adventuring there is. Tim raised the bar on this. I opened my Amazon box and said, “Holy shit, he DID it.” I was blown away.
Worst-case scenarios. You gotta love ’em.
I can sum up my worst-case scenario in one phrase: “I can always sling beer.”
The divinity of procrastination.
Hesitation can be a form of wisdom. Motives become clearer; new information shows up. Amazing grace can happen when you choose inner rhythms over external pressure.
What would your life be like if you only did what was easy? An exercise.
The concept of ‘ease’ confounds most of us. Why? Because of thoughts like these: Pay your dues. Put in your time. Prove yourself. Meet expectations. Soldier on. Nothing worthwhile comes easy.
Credo for Making It Happen Poster. Get yours here.
A free digital poster of The Credo for Making It Happen. Download yours now.
What does your perfect 12 hours look like? An exercise.
Fill your day with Creative Genius-inducing environments and actions. Imagine it.
