I want to go deep into this conversation about creating Fulfilling Friendships. I’ve got lots to say about engaged listening, self respect, breaking up (when necessary), and celebrating our friend-loves. I’ve also got plenty of opinions and practices for self-compassion, deep spiritual devotion, healthier relationships with our damn phones, and better quality sleep.
Relationships + Society
Self respect is a spiritual practice.
We fight for causes, for relationships, for our children, for our co-workers… but it can be terrifying to fight for ourselves. This is where sisterhood is particularly powerful. When our girlfriends see us over-extending, and they look us in the eye and say, “Stop. You don’t need to do this.”
“My way of being is changing…”
Some Heart Centered members have been working with these devotional practices for a few months now. Our collective practice has settled into a trustable rhythm. There’s room for all of you to be carried on the momentum.
Everyone foraging for the happiness that was always right there to be had.
With unlimited stillness we are all feral, finding home.
What it feels like to be held by Life
I feel like everything in my life was training for the times we are in. All of the practices, the dark nights, the devotion. And, not-so-ironically, this is the time when everything I’ve been creating—practices for staying centered and tapping into Spirit—are coming in verrry handy. We all have medicine to offer.
How to hold your suffering friend: the components of hope.
This could serve as a thank you note for the people who gave you their hope when you needed it…
Shadow work: bringing it into the light.
Self-compassion is the most powerful light source on the inner shadow. Shine it on the full spectrum of your pain (from the ancient to the recent) and keep loving what you find in the dark. This is good parenting for your soul. Keep looking, keep listening, keep loving your wounds… and your radiance—your inherent, never-leaving, second nature radiance—will astound you.
Making new friends as an adult: Tenderness and expansion.
Making new friends—it’s never, EVER too late…
What’s your relationship to mornings?
Menus of morning habits are easy to come by (harder to practice). But habits are only bandaids unless we get beneath the surface of our behavior and relating. That’s what most productivity methods fail to ask. What were mornings like for you growing up? What does your ideal morning *feel* like?
Are we each other’s reflection? Yes. And No.
Are you attracting jerks because you’re a jerk? Maybe. Maybe not. Sometimes the jerk is there to show you how you do NOT want to feel or be treated—because contrast is one of our most powerful teachers. The flipside: what they may be here to illuminate is how you DO want to feel and who you truly are.
Loving yourself (and others) any way you can
Can you love yourself when you hate yourself?
Our whole lives are relationships. Love accordingly.
A treatise on the power of connection…
You do not need to feel “worthy” of what you want in order to manifest it.
Manifestation is a technology. And like all technologies, I pray we’ll use it appropriately: to generate more loving realities for ourselves and each other. All the material stuff can be fun, and we deserve comfort and ease—without question. But let’s get on with manifesting fresh air, and clean water, and relationships that nourish and heal. And on the way to doing that, self-worth will unfold. We will be manifesting love.
How present can you be to “negative” feelings?
To deny the negative feelings is to resist the power of our presence—we miss out on LIFE. We have to lean in, embrace it, even.
A NEW Desire Map. Deeper, brighter, freer.
The Desire Map 2.0. Enhanced + deeply fresh content. More… MINDFUL. HEARTFUL. POWERFUL. And for 10 days only, it’s free.
How to wish someone well—in a way that will blow your life wide open.
Converting bitter resentment into blessings…
A (free) holiday survival kit for family (dys)functions
Get centered and prepped for choice gatherings…
New holiday traditions, to sweeten the chaos
There’s a lot about the holidays I look forward to. The beautiful rituals, and being with people I love, and Jesus (one of my true loves). But… there’s a lot about the holidays in North America that I could do without. So I try to keep this season as gentle as possible. Here’s my way of sweetening the chaos and creating beauty that doesn’t weigh heavy on Mother Earth…
Burn your journals. Maybe. Either way, here’s some inspiration on letting go.
I burned about 20 years of journals. Pages and pages of gut-red poetry and angst; cosmic gorgeousness and tender prayers; lists of wants, boyfriends (a loose term), and favourite perfumes. With every page I fed into the fireplace, I smiled. Thank you. Goodbye. Hellohhh here & now…
Wishes for our American friends
As our American friends head to the polls today, I wanted to offer this to all of us: Look for Light with more intensity than ever… and vote for it.
How to offer support for someone feeling suicidal (…and hope for anyone in that painful place)
May our suffering transform into liberating strength, and our despair into an incredible beauty that carries us to joy over and over again. And with deepest humility and respect for each person’s path I say: May these words save lives, and may those lives be well lived and wildly loved.
Love, transactionality, and the “5 people” you hang with
We hear this from motivators: “You are the average of the 5 people that you surround yourself with.”
So, is this a gift, or a transaction? Because…your entire life is not a business deal.
I’ve been thinking a lot about transactional giving these days. I’ll tweet about you if you tweet about me. They owe me a favour. You listen for five minutes to them so they’ll listen when it’s your turn to talk. Even Stevens. Transactional giving can be a beautiful commerce of support, and there’s nothing inherently wrong with that interplay. But if all of our giving is to secure our getting…then, well, it’s gross.
Friends, Lovers, and Therapy
Friends, lovers and therapy…
How to be a revolutionary for just love
This episode is about our personal activism. I’m talking about how we can get justice, without incurring too much karma. I’m talking about how to be a revolutionary for just love.
Do not doubt the wisdom of your rage. (inspired by recent events)
Popularity isn’t always true power. Money isn’t always success. Experience does not guarantee wisdom. Question it all. And do not doubt the wisdom of your rage.
GOOD MANNERS and some wuv. We could all use more of them.
There are still some basic good manners that should prevail no matter our generation, station, or affiliation. Here’s what it might mean to be classy, kind, and considerate whenever you are able (and we are almost always able).
3 habits for dissolving envy.
Can you wish the best for those you envy?
What if your jealousy is a sign that you need to get your ass in gear?
Because, what’s wrong with wanting what you want?
Come on, get app-y. Team D’s favourite apps for work & play.
Our creativity and productivity flow has got to be A+ to back up our dreams. Here’s a roundup of our favourite apps for work and play.
Recommitting to sisterly love. (Because women wounding other women won’t get us where we need to go.)
Good things come to those who… hold out. Holding out requires a sacred, almost superhuman degree of focus—mystical muther freaking prowess.