A good personality test can help reveal the innermost workings of your psyche. Anyone who applies for a job with Team D takes these three tests. And, they’re kind of… fun…
Self Help Post
New, little big deals. Is this the week you do what you’ve been scared of?
My friend Robindra promised he’d show me some DJ ropes (because I wanna spin and mix and stuff when I grow up). He got a gig in North Van and said I could tag along for the night. So I Facebook’d about it, mentioned the locale, said it was a great way to kick off my birthday week, and I put on my black high tops to head out…
Skin, joy, boobs, and the right hair colour: My random & rarely dispensed beauty notes
From the incidental to the possibly profound, here are my tips for chicks who want to look even hotter (’cause you’re already hot, sister)…
Comfort zones, truth telling — and by the way, I’m no guru
Here’s what happens when I do a speaking gig. Every time. I try to dispense some luminous #truthbomb and how-to advice — because that’s what I’m there to do…
My travel tips: Rose water, keyboards, peppermint, and mantras
I’m on a few airplanes every year. “Few” is a relative term. Maybe a lot of airplanes. And, having five planets in Virgo (tho’ my Sun is in Gemini, FYI), I like things just “so.” I love my systems, my best finds, my compartments, and my comforting things. (This is way less neurotic than it sounds.) Here’s how I keep it all together and cozy on the road…
Want to get unstuck? Maybe it’s time to stop analyzing it.
You can work out your family of origin issues, and neuroses, and past life traumas with your shrink or your shaman. You can talk talk talk it out all day long (I know, I’ve done it.) You can trace the cause of your wounds and why you’re so stuck. But at some point, eventually, who cares WHY you’re stuck…
Desire enchants you to the woods
and has you push through the muck
with the patience of a Lotus.
Search everywhere for your keys.
And then she makes you drive all night, desire,
With no map or insurance.
My recent confessions on writing, and a word of advice: Keep going.
1. At the moment I have 225 notes in my “Blog – DRAFTS” notebook in Evernote. At least half of them will never see the light of day. 2. I read some of my shitty first drafts and…
Empty your belly.
Empty your belly of rage and striving Create! Create! Create! and all the while, be still so you can hear the code of The Beginning.
Does playing the victim have an upside? Well, kind of. PART 2: Making new mind grooves.
Here’s PART 2 of the two-part series: Making New Mind Grooves, A Discussion About the Neuropathways That Are Steering Your Life with Terri Cole and me.
My New Life In Golden
Small things. Teeny tiny gentle things. Just one small analogue choice a week can silence, soothe, and interrupt patterns that need positive interruptions. You can do it. You must.
The 3 Spectacularly Simple Questions to Ask for Planning Anything & Everything
When Team Danielle jams on long term vision we use these 3 spectacularly simple questions to get the planning party started.
The moments that make for burning gratitude.
My gratitude for all of this burns in my solar plexus. Sometimes I push against it. I have to consciously breathe it in — choose to expand rather than contract, choose to let it melt any illusions of lack. Mostly, I breathe, and smile deeply, and say Thank you. And then I detach a bit. Because you know, I don’t think I have much to do with anyone else’s a-ha’s. And I just get on with being expressive…grateful…expressive…grateful.
The journey has to feel the way you want the destination to feel.
Freedom does not come from a checklist, and a ‘zero inbox’ is not a life aspiration.If liberation is a chore, it’s not really liberation. You can’t contract your way to freedom. You can’t punish your way to joy. You can’t fight your way to inner peace. The journey has to feel the way you want the destination to feel…
Remember, you said Yes to this.
You’re choosing – all the time. If you’re slogging away at a job you don’t love, look at it this way: you’re choosing to make a living to pay your rent, support your kids, fuel your dreams. Be in the choice of it — that’s where your power is. You’re in a relationship that’s causing you pain — you’re choosing to be in it. Maybe staying will lead to essential growth, or a break through, or deeper love. Or not. But you’re choosing to be in or out. Be in the choice of it — that’s where your power is.
Name your god
Listen to me
I am one of you
desirous broken open perpetual…
Your Most Precious Thing. Shaking up your attachments.
This contemplation is about getting to the bottom of your heart, and gasping for air while you’re down there, only to see how empty and full you are. Empty. Full. Same time. You’re up for it.
Examine your envy
You just never can know the machinations of someones else’s Soul — their karma, their dharma, their story. Maybe they’re learning precisely what they need to learn in this lifetime to become self-actualized, maybe they’re struggling to get free, maybe they’re an enlightened being who’s come to stir shit up so we can learn compassion. Life only knows.
Strong, vulnerable men.
Deep and medium tones. Tall, short, fat, fit, straight, gay, brown, white, grey, tattooed. Alone and in chorus. All men. Now the women were catching each other’s eyes in a shared “Like, holy wow,” kind of knowing. And we weren’t just misty-eyed, many of us were weeping — that kind of big-tear cry that you try to muffle by holding your breath because it’s so deep and true, and it’s been living in your body for a long time. Ya, that cry. The women were melting into a puddle of gratitude and respect.
Use your dissatisfaction to start a personal revolution
Gratitude, joy, anticipation … all powerful forces for positive mind-states and manifesting goodness in your life. And then there’s dissatisfaction, heartache, resentment. And guess what… those are also powerful forces for positive mind-states and manifesting goodness in your life. Yep. Because those emotions are real. They are part of your wholeness. They count.
Gorgeous, gritty, vibrant, black & white, four colour, luminous …. joy. What’s it look like to you?
Capture an image of joy. Your version of it. Whatever trips the joy circuits in your psyche and body. Show us. Grab your iPhone and snap it now, or pull it from your Pinterest board, or reach into your archives. Post a joy visual, tag it with #DesireMap — and help us see with our hearts how to rise to life.
Do you love your problems? Because that would be helpful.
Do you love the kind of problems that you have in your relationship? Like, can you love the fact that your “work” as a couple is to deepen intimacy? That’s some hard work. But can you honour that that’s your work to do?
My love for you
than any compass could map.
But like a Queen
with the luxury of time and resources…
Actually, you’re the guru. Notes on resonance and respect.
It’s all about resonance. Teachers (and they come in all forms) hold up a mirror for you in just the right light, at just the right moment, and you just happen to catch YOUR reflection in it. They are strumming chords that are strung in your heart.
Break the law, bag the contract, ignore your lawyer, be yourself
For even the most assured and self-referencing person, legalities and money matters are major character testers.
What do you trust? An exercise for strength and mind-cooling.
Before a big gig or a super-charged opportunity I do a trust ritual with myself. I started doing it on airplanes to cool my mind down after my strategic wheels had been in overdrive. Often we’re so busy trying to get our endorphins fired up to go get ‘em!, we can forget that simply feeling comforted is a very powerful — and useful state of being.
Your relationship to destruction & Goddess Kali.
You know — right this very minute — what’s not working in your life. You don’t have to think about it for too long. The question is: How do you feel about destroying what must be destroyed in your life?
We give what we can, when we can. A very simple story.
I’ve been meeting every month with the same five women for seven years. Goddess Night, we call it. Of course it’s a divine lifeline. And of course, we bring food. When we first started meeting my boy was a newborn and my first company was taking off, and I was five kinds of exhausted. I’d usually show up late to Goddess Night. My contribution to a beautiful potluck spread would be like, a bag of chips. Or half a sack of store bought cookies…
My Upper Limit Problem and how we resist joy
When the stakes are high or when the success is more than you’ve experienced before, Upper Limit Problems can strike. You rain on your own parade. You make a windfall of cash and you get into a car accident. You fall in love and you pick a silly fight. You come down with something before a big moment…
Truth telling. (The daringly happy and ebullient kind.)
What about the purely positive truths that make you shy to share? They’re so bright and electrically charged that you fear they might blind their receiver, or you’ll just look all gushy and soft and love foolish. …