Jumping for joy can be counter-intuitive when you’ve been despairing long term. Your cells become expectant of disappointment.
Self Help Post
5 books for navigating the complexities of love
This book analyzes the break downs in communication that kill love-read it before you fall in love… This one is required reading for Goddesses of all ages… And this one is, well, it’s a wild ride.
9 books for deepening how you create + work (part 2 of 3)
In this new world, you and I make it up as we go along, not because we lack expertise or planning skills, but because that is the nature of reality.
9 books that could deeply influence how you live (part 1 of 3)
Discipline is a tool that numbs the mind. When I read this, I felt like there was a ray of light cracking through my living room. This singular thought changed the way I approached my entire life.
The dark side of minimalism.
Increasingly, we are voting with our dollars, ceasing to fill the holes in our souls with plastic stuff, and living more lightly on a highly-burdened eco-system.
transparency. when it works and when it bombs.
At it’s worst, transparency without the intention of teaching can amount to a lot of diarist wanking. Which has it’s place, of course. Voyeurism and art are great lovers, and there’s a deep translation of shared humanness that happens when we get all bloody and exposed in our creations—and when someone else is provoked by our outpouring, or even more profoundly, relates to it, then, well, it’s a divine kind of wow…
saying yes to your dream: frank gehry + devotion
The moment you say YES is the beginning. It’s not when you give your notice or when your novel is off the press. It’s when you say YES to the desire.
7 things I know about active letting go. (sure beats waiting.)
“Active letting go” is not to be mistaken for “passive letting go”, whereby life rips stuff out of your grip, or you paint yourself into a corner, or things get so heavy they stop you in your tracks and you have to ditch them just to carry on. Active letting go is a little more…pro-active. It’s a practice. It’s awake. It’s somewhat delightful (except for the agony of it.)
the divine law of the ugly chair, hot shopping and nyc love
Them: “But what will we sit on?” Me: “Sit on the floor. Pile up on the couch. You’ll figure it out. The sooner you get rid of it, the sooner the right chair will show up.
7 tiny big life shifters
Screw it. I LIKE to check my email first thing in the morning. It doesn’t mean that I’m a distracted workaholic, it means I’m an excited Creative who loves her friends and new friends and what she does with her day…
4 righteous bits on art + interactivity…
Why even have a blog if you don’t want to interact with your readers? A blogger refusing to take comments would be like an artist refusing to take part in a critique. Right?
got boundaries? got class?
I’ve spent so many hours in psychotherapy, and retreats, and boardrooms clarifying my “needs” vs. “wants” vs. “the hungry ghost” vs. “healthy expectations” that when I “surrender” to someone else’s “way” it can feel like a stick in my spokes of dignity (and I paid a lot for that dignity.) Such is the foible of Western spirituality. Me first, You next…
what do you call yourself?
Labels are a necessary and unavoidable function of most cultures. We need them like we need traffic lights and handshakes. Recognize if you’ve outgrown your “title”. Deepen your claim, or lighten it right up. Carve out your own personal lexicon. Snug, and radiant…
your permission slip from the universe
I’ve got the Goddess of Permission on speed dial and she was thrilled to oblige with this sweeping list of acts of self expression and liberation. We can draw on it whenever we need. Come back often. Build on it. The Permission Goddess sends kisses and high-fives…
making space for creative credo
You just need to keep your eye on your real power source, or you get all fancy and you start wearing sunglasses when you sit down at the computer.
depression vs. sadness: the power of mincing words
Depression may be the cousin of sadness, sometimes the defended response to unyielding sadness, but it makes you feel anything but alive. It dulls, weighs, and messes with your memory of your true essential nature…which is that of joy…
THE secret to success. this is IT. for reals.
Tell the truth, tell it fast, deliver it with sincerity and care. Words are arrows.
how much money do you want to make this year?
This ends a message to your subconscious, and your subconscious takes things way too literally (this is one of those times when you want your subconscious to take you way too literally.)
embracing creativity + our longing for narrative: Francesco Clemente with Charlie Rose
This interview reads like a meditation; at least it does for me. Clemente’s longing for a sense of wholeness and completion; the struggle to find his voice and break away from the order of things; the surrender to one’s desire… Dig in.
confidence vs. blind faith: rock ’em both
Confidence is earned. No exceptions. There are NO short cuts to initiation. Ever. It’s law. You can do it quick n’ dirty, or you can do it slow, like, over life times kind of slow. But confidence is the result of insight and insight comes from experiencing things on a very deep level…
escaping? from what? your pain? or your power?
I’m a recovering Metaphysical Overachiever. After I got done being a good Catholic girl I moved on to being a Good New Age Girl. Subtly, I just swapped one gospel with the other. I just wanted to get it right, you know. I was up for facing demons…
11 wisdoms that you can turn into cash…and crazy love
The stories of hardship, and resiliency, and exceptional wealth that were so open-heartedly shared with me from women and men in four different countries… well, be still my heart.
11 things to do (and not do) when you’re burned out
#10: Wholly embrace the organic nature of create-fry-regenerate.
expand your life, take your dogma for a walk
Dogma comes in all kinds of packaging — usually just the right size to fit our insecurities and blind spots. Whether you’re fighting for peace (what a searing oxymoron that is,) or you’re converting meat-eaters to veggie burgers, you do what you do because it feels really good to think you’re right…
fear.less stories: the beautiful epidemic of fear
Everyone is struggling with the same thing: fear of being his or her true self. Everyone from artists to start-ups to high-level CEO’s; everyone. And still, I’ve gotta ask, “Do you want to be scared or do you want to be broke? Do you want to be scared, or do you want to move forward?”
the sacred yes we wish for… and warrant
Ideally, you give yourself the Yes first. That self-love methodology is all neat and tidy and evolved. But I think you still get evolution bonus points even if it takes a dozen power people to convince you that you are fabulous.
the worst business advice i’ve received
When you’re the start-up beggar, it’s tough to be choosy. But remember the rules of nature: otherwise cute and friendly animals tend to get vicious when their territory or uh, nuts are threatened.
step away from the karma. choosing not to get involved.
Why do we give? Why do we hold back? What does it mean to give freely? When we give of ourselves, what are we giving? Can you give too much? Too much… love? In this segment, I’m exploring the shadowy side of “giving.” The kind of giving that has some barbs on it…
my dominatrix of decisions rides a hedgehog
No one can tell my story or share my acumen like I can. My experience is what I sell and the more I show up, the better.
hatched joy: happy birthday to white hot truth
Illusion-nuking-initiation-heat. Phoenix fire licking my soul. Cleansed to naked. Clothed by loved ones.