Converting bitter resentment into blessings…
communication
the goddess of grief: getting to the other side. (and there is always another side.)
Grief is one of the most powerful Goddesses. She swallows your agony and lets it tear her apart. Beautiful birds fly from her belly – each one an insight into life and your power. Grief brings the whole flock to your window and she waits and waits to reveal universal truths to you. She goes to the depths with you. She rises with you…
3 habits for dissolving envy.
Can you wish the best for those you envy?
What if your jealousy is a sign that you need to get your ass in gear?
Because, what’s wrong with wanting what you want?
Hint: Nothin’…
Come on, get app-y. Team D’s favourite apps for work & play.
Our creativity and productivity flow has got to be A+ to back up our dreams. Here’s a roundup of our favourite apps for work and play.
refuse to worry (and how to be more useful for your friends)
Every fearful expectation has a big “story” behind it. The trauma, the drama, the pain, the plot. Worry feeds on the gruesome details. It replays the potential saga in your head. It validates all the reasons things could go wrong by drudging up the past again and again. Worry is cleverly building a case as to why you should worry…
A What’s Hot / What’s Not list for your business or career
If you want to get awesome results, you’ve got to get real about what’s currently not-so-awesome. In the Desire Map process you begin by going through a gratitude exercise, followed by a dissatisfaction review. It’s the whole picture, with a ton of love and no-sugar coating.
In our business, we just started doing a What’s Hot/What’s Not check-in. Our Chief of Staff & People Potential, Steph Corker, officially kicked this off on our last big check-in.
Destroy before you create. So scary. Sooo effective.
Half truths piled on top of half truths do not add up to the whole truth. It’s a just a heap of “not-quite-there-ness.” Grey. Cluttery. If you want satisfaction you have to do the good, hard work of burning down the little lies and resistances. Tear it DOWN.
Coming out of the closet about following your intuition
We work so courageously to hear and heed our intuition, and yet sometimes we lie about following it. We make up “reasons” for our choice that sound more logical and acceptable.
A hunch can be hard to justify to others when the hunch is telling you to choose something other than them.
Females trash-talking males (and why it’s holding us all back)
“Successful” Female is at the podium. She’s giving a talk on how to be “successful” as a woman in business.
I’ve been to a goodly amount of women’s conferences. So much life and power at those events — and sometimes, unfortunately, a big dose of density. It goes like this…
Dive into your psyche. 3 personality tests for introspection.
A good personality test can help reveal the innermost workings of your psyche. Anyone who applies for a job with Team D takes these three tests. And, they’re kind of… fun…
Comfort zones, truth telling — and by the way, I’m no guru
Here’s what happens when I do a speaking gig. Every time. I try to dispense some luminous #truthbomb and how-to advice — because that’s what I’m there to do…
Want to get unstuck? Maybe it’s time to stop analyzing it.
You can work out your family of origin issues, and neuroses, and past life traumas with your shrink or your shaman. You can talk talk talk it out all day long (I know, I’ve done it.) You can trace the cause of your wounds and why you’re so stuck. But at some point, eventually, who cares WHY you’re stuck…
Playlist: Friends Forever
New Friends Forever playlist. Heart melter.
One of the most helpful things you can do for your friends: Be a witness to what’s working.
I N C L U D E S A U D I O • Most of us don’t need more advice or constructive criticism. We need to be witnessed in what’s working, in what we’re doing “right” to create our ideal life.
The (All New!) Ask-A-Friend Survey… and my bestie & me getting cozy
You can download the all new Ask-A-Friend Survey here! And then, go ahead. Send it and get closer.
Part 2 of Leaving the Church of Self Improvement… for the Temple of Me
Where did I leave off from? Right here with Part 1: Leaving the Church of Self Improvement for the Temple of Me.
Leaving the Church of Self Improvement – A Special Feature
Leaving the Church of Self Improvement for the Temple of Me. The lies that spur us on. Rooting in love. Pleasure rules. And more.
Put on the kettle, or bring your iPad to bed with you. We’re going in.
Strong, vulnerable men.
Deep and medium tones. Tall, short, fat, fit, straight, gay, brown, white, grey, tattooed. Alone and in chorus. All men. Now the women were catching each other’s eyes in a shared “Like, holy wow,” kind of knowing. And we weren’t just misty-eyed, many of us were weeping — that kind of big-tear cry that you try to muffle by holding your breath because it’s so deep and true, and it’s been living in your body for a long time. Ya, that cry. The women were melting into a puddle of gratitude and respect.
3 habits for dissolving envy
Can you wish the best for those you envy?
What if your jealousy is a sign that you need to get your ass in gear?
Because, what’s wrong with wanting what you want?
Hint: Nothin’…
Truth telling. (The daringly happy and ebullient kind.)
What about the purely positive truths that make you shy to share? They’re so bright and electrically charged that you fear they might blind their receiver, or you’ll just look all gushy and soft and love foolish. …
What if forgiveness isn’t about forgiving? Thoughts on consciously relating to people who have hurt you.
When I approach forgiveness as a goal, it actually blocks me from my truth and love. In the past, when I’ve set out to forgive someone I just get all twisted up with who did what and why, and I start looking to validate my rightness. …
Do you want to be right, or do you want to be free? (Choose “free.”)
I was in court over a sour business deal. I walked into that boardroom certain of two things: I was right about who owed who what, and I was not caving in.
Credo for Making It Happen Poster. Get yours here.
A free digital poster of The Credo for Making It Happen. Download yours now.
Want to improve your communication skills?
We open our mind to assumptions but keep our mouths shut. We lock down. We just don’t say anything….
Online cliques and how to make “the ask.” In conversation with Kate Swoboda.
This is a conversation I’ve been wanting to have for a while. Online cliques. The scene – behind the scenes, inside hearts – my heart. We hit notes like: What it takes it to make it a “yes,” and why you should stop taking it so personally….
From celebration to devastation, who can you call at 2 a.m.?
We’ve decided that being able to call someone at 2am is our new metric of love… Treasured, indispensable, no matter what, sacred circle….
I know I know you
I can walk down streetsin new cities or be in a stadium waiting for the concert to begin
and I see your face
and I feel
I know you and you and you and you…
The first thing to say to a friend in need.
Well, that sucks. That’s the very first place to start. Sympathy is a healer, it coagulates the bleeding. It won’t drag them down if you validate their pain. It doesn’t mean you condone how they got into the pickle, or the fact that they may be bitching about the same chump after seven years, or that they done gone did it again — or any of that fairly useless judgement and assessing…
How to Start a Mastermind Group. Jen Louden + I Jam on the Power of Your People.
Everything I’ve accomplished has had inner circle support – sleeves-rolled up kind of support. No secrets, soul-bared, nuts and bolts hashing it out. Late nights in living rooms, emergency cellphone calls on street corners. Power advice by texts. Three-day retreats with coloured pens, calendars out and red wine. You get the idea….
The Incremental Commitment Formula. Realistic Give ‘n Take.
One-step-at-a-time commitment creates traction. It’s about being responsive to reality — it gives you leeway for mutual accountability, for prerogatives to be exercised, and for the self-motivated players to motivate themselves…. and THAT’S something you can commit to.
