Going with the flow isn’t about being passive or laissez faire. It’s not about just letting things happen “to you.” It’s not aimless wandering. Going with the Flow is a co-creative act.
Freedom
10 positive consequences of NOT improving yourself
When you get off of your own case, you tend to ease up on everyone else around you. Which makes you way more fun to be around.
You’re going to feel guilty
The guilty feeling associated with desire, with going after what you want, with transforming….you know that feeling? It’s like tar on your mojo. Maybe you were raised in an environment where desire was considered a negative thing. Or your social circle constantly reinforces the message that you shouldn’t dare to bust out. And maybe you frequently feel guilty for wanting what you want — and you know that it’s causing blocks in your life…
Freedom worships inquiry
If you want to live according to the pulse of your soul, to the depth of your desires — to be FULLY ALIVE THIS LIFETIME…then you must devote yourself to be a QUESTIONER.
Why these rules? Why am I feeling this way? WHAT am I feeling? Why did they do it that way? Why can’t I? Why are we doing it this way? Where are we going? Where else has this been? Where does it go when I’m done with it? Why not?
You’re free to go.
…and by that I mean…stay if you love it. Leave if you don’t.
Honour your life by honouring your time. Start with the easy stuff. YOUR LIFE and YOUR HAPPINESS. Bum them out temporarily or be FULFILLED and FREE? Hmmmm.
The Bright Privilege
Sometimes, my heart is so openI can’t tell if it is a gaping wound or a portal for everything that ever was and ever will be…
Please don’t punish yourself.
It’s hard enough to make your way in a world where you will be judged, daily. To overcome the intentional punishments inflicted by dark mongers; to find the right concoction for emotional wounds; and to rise from the simply deep heartache of not getting what you want — it’s anything but easy.
Destroy before you create. So scary. Sooo effective.
Half truths piled on top of half truths do not add up to the whole truth. It’s a just a heap of “not-quite-there-ness.” Grey. Cluttery. If you want satisfaction you have to do the good, hard work of burning down the little lies and resistances. Tear it DOWN.
Unconscious acceptance. Which is to say, What shit are you putting up with?
We do it for “love,” we do it for spirituality, we do it to polish our halos. We do it because some relationship books tell us to. We do it to look good…
Write this sentence down where you can see it: I am devoted to dreaming about my ideal life.
Dreaming is a solution, a soul elixir for so many emotional ailments. The mere act of dreaming is a life-affirming endeavour. Dream. Envision. Fantasize. Imagine…
Here’s what to do when you’re feeling small. Reframe your power.
What I love the most is truth, and if I’m going to be of service — and I’m devoted to being of service, then I have to tell you: I feel so small today. I see the pain. I see the joy. I see the beauty. I feel the global scope of what’s happening, and… I feel really, really… small…
Kundalini rising (A poem for your fire)
I am looking
for a place
to put this fire…
Kali’s fire, my life, my love.
Kali came to me on a morning that felt like night. She said, “It gets dark so you can see the fire burn more clearly. Throw it all in. And by ‘all,’ I mean yourself.” Into the fire I put a habit of sadness I was married to. And so then I put in my own singular and true sadness, but not so it would be obliterated, rather transmuted, because I wanted to honour the utility of my delusions, the lies that made for density so that I could see the fire burn more clearly.
The Higher Purpose of Conflict
There’s no way around conflict, you can only go through it.
Music Playlist: Stand on the edge of light.
Music is sonic light. I worship at the altar of lyric and rhythm. And light. So this playlist gives me particular pleasure to present to you. More to come.
Part 2 of Leaving the Church of Self Improvement… for the Temple of Me
Where did I leave off from? Right here with Part 1: Leaving the Church of Self Improvement for the Temple of Me.
Leaving the Church of Self Improvement – A Special Feature
Leaving the Church of Self Improvement for the Temple of Me. The lies that spur us on. Rooting in love. Pleasure rules. And more.
Put on the kettle, or bring your iPad to bed with you. We’re going in.
How I revolutionized my relationship to “doing”: Meet The Divine Medicine Woman & The Impeccable Street Sweeper
I began to create the inner — and outer — conditions that helped me make “my medicine”, my art, my best work… I had to sledgehammer some mental structures. I unstrapped years of “shoulds” off my back — and I found wings – massive wings.
The real you is waiting. In here. Not out there.
You can’t patch your Soul’s truth together with workshops, and a wardrobe, and identity choices. You’ll likely spend half of your life trying to do just that. Composing. Polishing. Packaging. Facing outward, even though it’s all inward. Eventually, you’ll stop looking out there. In the middle of the noise and the obligations it will dawn on you (maybe right now) that the real you emerges…
Why affirmations can mess you right up (and what to say to yourself instead.)
Contrived affirmations take you out of the present. Rather than facing what’s real, we try to plaster over the difficult truths with happy thoughts. This is false optimism and it’s damaging. It undermines our capacity to be with what is, and to access our real strength and spiritual maturity. Spiritual maturity includes the capacity to acknowledge our fears while maintaining our confidence and faith…
Soul soup. (Keep this in mind when you’re falling apart.)
There will be a time, a passage when you don’t really know who you were, or are, or can be. It’s natural, it’s divine, and it’s the chemistry of beautiful, awesome change. This passage can happen in big dramatic swells, as years of not quite knowing what you want to do; or seasons of confusion that aren’t quite depressing, but confusing enough to invite sadness in…
How to deconstruct your fear: an exercise
Getting clear on what you’re scared of can instantly diffuse ticking anxiety bombs and release your creative power.
What do you suck at?
When you cop to your shortcomings a number of wonderful things can happen. You become more accessible to the people around you, you invite other people to step up and shine, and you create space for support to come into your life — you actually don’t have to be awesome at everything…
I want to write about savage beasts in jungles of the psyche.
I want to write about savage beasts in jungles of the psyche, the heart, the everyday. I want to write about red ambitions and sloppy ways of getting one’s desires fulfilled and the turmoil of perpetual wanting. I want to write about hunger. Hungry souls…
Make changes without criticizing the past — your future will thank you for it.
We look at how we over worked it, or how we missed the mark, or all the reasons it, they, you, me, we fell short. We start to shrink the value of the past so that we can justify taking new aim, or giving notice, or taking the leap that will move us in a new direction….
Why I stopped meditating: acts of rebellion + intention
Meditation started to feel like one more thing to do, an assignment and I was being graded on. Polishing my consciousness, counting my mantras, strength-building – achieving. Meditating was becoming a way to reinforce my “goodness”. And so I stopped. And some beautiful things happened…
what would you like to stop doing?
When someone has the good sense and conviction to stop doing what’s not working for them, well, it calls for a national holiday. The brilliance of simplification needs to be celebrated! It often goes like this…
what boat do you need to burn? a testimony to your future
Usually we want to do more of what got us to where we are. Familiarity, best practices, proven techniques. But the future craves more daring from us. What boat do you need to burn?…
7 things I know about active letting go. (sure beats waiting.)
“Active letting go” is not to be mistaken for “passive letting go”, whereby life rips stuff out of your grip, or you paint yourself into a corner, or things get so heavy they stop you in your tracks and you have to ditch them just to carry on. Active letting go is a little more…pro-active. It’s a practice. It’s awake. It’s somewhat delightful (except for the agony of it.)
escaping? from what? your pain? or your power?
I’m a recovering Metaphysical Overachiever. After I got done being a good Catholic girl I moved on to being a Good New Age Girl. Subtly, I just swapped one gospel with the other. I just wanted to get it right, you know. I was up for facing demons…
