Detachment is hard on your heart — and it actually creates blocks to what you want. Non-attachment, on the other hand, is actually nourishing, and much easier to put into practice.
Letting Go
My “give it up” list. Feel free to make it yours.
It’s always a good time to let go of whatever is holding you back. Here are some micro monumental suggestions.
What’s on your List of Things to Give Up? Here’s a peek at mine.
It’s always a good time to let go of whatever is holding you back.
Energy parasites and addiction to chaos…and other things to weed out of your life.
Women and feminine-identified types specialize in beginnings, not endings. We prefer to nurture, not exclude. This of course is spectacular and divine and… challenging. Because destruction is essential to creation. Something has to die for your dream to be born. And by that I mean… you may need to cut off it’s life/lie supply and send it down the river to die.
The epidemic of the brittle woman and the salvation of softness
You know her. Maybe you are her. Or you were. Sisters, please don’t become her. Sisters (and brothers), let’s heal her. She’s giving up on love and life. Sometime, as a result of having to try too hard to get her very essential Soul needs met she… just… got… worn…down. She had no choice but to stiffen. Then she realized that she had a choice.
Love your sadness. It won’t last.
I was feeling it. Pure sadness—the inescapability of it plowing through the softest part of me. When you’re in that kind of painful place you’ll try to climb the walls to get away from it. You want it over with.
Resentment. And how to (un)block your prosperity.
We hold on. Because Love does that. Embracing, rocking, reserving space. Love holds, it treasures, it tucks away for safe keeping, it loyally protects. Holding on is one of the many great powers of Love. To people. To relationships with people. To ideas we had about the people we relate to. We hold on to our bad habits of relating. I’ll be weak so you can feel strong. I’ll be strong so you won’t see me weak. I’ll do it so you don’t have to. I’ll confuse things because if clarity happens, things will have to change.
Swallowing your words, paying rent in hell, and maintaining appearances. Why we make (unhealthy) compromises.
There are two kinds of compromise: the kind that heals you by expanding you — it’s the healthy kind that stems from real love and grace. And because it usually brings some delight with it, then doesn’t feel much like a compromise after all. And then there’s the kind of compromise that bruises your soul…
Unconscious acceptance. Which is to say, What shit are you putting up with?
We do it for “love,” we do it for spirituality, we do it to polish our halos. We do it because some relationship books tell us to. We do it to look good…
choosing feral
That tired beautiful animal in me needed to die,but not like a sacrificial offering…
Kali’s fire, my life, my love.
Kali came to me on a morning that felt like night. She said, “It gets dark so you can see the fire burn more clearly. Throw it all in. And by ‘all,’ I mean yourself.” Into the fire I put a habit of sadness I was married to. And so then I put in my own singular and true sadness, but not so it would be obliterated, rather transmuted, because I wanted to honour the utility of my delusions, the lies that made for density so that I could see the fire burn more clearly.
Want to get unstuck? Maybe it’s time to stop analyzing it.
You can work out your family of origin issues, and neuroses, and past life traumas with your shrink or your shaman. You can talk talk talk it out all day long (I know, I’ve done it.) You can trace the cause of your wounds and why you’re so stuck. But at some point, eventually, who cares WHY you’re stuck…
Part 2 of Leaving the Church of Self Improvement… for the Temple of Me
Where did I leave off from? Right here with Part 1: Leaving the Church of Self Improvement for the Temple of Me.
Leaving the Church of Self Improvement – A Special Feature
Leaving the Church of Self Improvement for the Temple of Me. The lies that spur us on. Rooting in love. Pleasure rules. And more.
Put on the kettle, or bring your iPad to bed with you. We’re going in.
Your Most Precious Thing. Shaking up your attachments.
This contemplation is about getting to the bottom of your heart, and gasping for air while you’re down there, only to see how empty and full you are. Empty. Full. Same time. You’re up for it.
Examine your envy
You just never can know the machinations of someones else’s Soul — their karma, their dharma, their story. Maybe they’re learning precisely what they need to learn in this lifetime to become self-actualized, maybe they’re struggling to get free, maybe they’re an enlightened being who’s come to stir shit up so we can learn compassion. Life only knows.
What do you trust? An exercise for strength and mind-cooling.
Before a big gig or a super-charged opportunity I do a trust ritual with myself. I started doing it on airplanes to cool my mind down after my strategic wheels had been in overdrive. Often we’re so busy trying to get our endorphins fired up to go get ‘em!, we can forget that simply feeling comforted is a very powerful — and useful state of being.
Do you want to be right, or do you want to be free? (Choose “free.”)
I was in court over a sour business deal. I walked into that boardroom certain of two things: I was right about who owed who what, and I was not caving in.
The Dangerous Terrain of Unnecessary Dream Shrinkage
The cosmos doesn’t measure sweat + hours for reward. The cosmos deals in the currencies of joy and satisfaction.åç
How To Be Classy When It Doesn’t Work Out The Way You Expected. The Grace of Loss.
Loss brings out our truest self. And while natural grace doesn’t come naturally to all of us — especially when we lose — it can be cultivated…
why self-improvement makes you neurotic
I’m about to make a major admission of error. I am hereby fessing up to a seriously flawed paradigm that has informed much of my adult life, and, (crap, sorry, apologies in advance,) too much of what I’ve espoused. Like most speakers, I have a pre-presentation ritual…
the stop doing list via live tv
Mark Kelley, from CBC, and I talk about “stop doing lists.”
principles: the perils and the ecstasy of clinging to your ideals
Principles can wreak havoc in your life. The way is light and fluid for the man with no preferences. – Lao Tzu
the “i don’t know” conspiracy
“I’ll figure it out,” may mean waiting quietly, even for a long time, on the will of heaven. It may mean turning over every single stone without rest until you find the answer or the escape hatch. It may mean praying til you sweat, surveying the experts, or forty days in the desert…
