A treatise on the power of connection…
When you get off of your own case, you tend to ease up on everyone else around you. Which makes you way more fun to be around.
What would open up? Shift. Lighten. Crumble. Dissolve. Melt.
How would you become more free?
Absolutely everything is a divine message because life is always calling you. I’m leaning against the fridge in a soul sister’s Brooklyn kitchen. “So Megg, Crocodiles are showing up EVERYWHERE for me lately. Like, everywhere. I’ve got to figure out what the Crocodile totem means. Do you know?” And Meggan gives me her classic eye twinkle and says, “Turn around.” Taped to the fridge door is her boy’s drawing of the day… “Shai’s Crocodile Shadow.” Alright cosmos, you have my attention…
We hold on. Because Love does that. Embracing, rocking, reserving space. Love holds, it treasures, it tucks away for safe keeping, it loyally protects. Holding on is one of the many great powers of Love. To people. To relationships with people. To ideas we had about the people we relate to. We hold on to our bad habits of relating. I’ll be weak so you can feel strong. I’ll be strong so you won’t see me weak. I’ll do it so you don’t have to. I’ll confuse things because if clarity happens, things will have to change.
It’s hard enough to make your way in a world where you will be judged, daily. To overcome the intentional punishments inflicted by dark mongers; to find the right concoction for emotional wounds; and to rise from the simply deep heartache of not getting what you want — it’s anything but easy.
1. Want more*. (Inner peace, greater clarity, outer beauty, awesome stuff — want anything you want.)2. Have an idea, or two or three, about how to get more. Act on that idea over and over again. 3. Hang out with people you can easily adore, or at least respect.
Swallowing your words, paying rent in hell, and maintaining appearances. Why we make (unhealthy) compromises.
There are two kinds of compromise: the kind that heals you by expanding you — it’s the healthy kind that stems from real love and grace. And because it usually brings some delight with it, then doesn’t feel much like a compromise after all. And then there’s the kind of compromise that bruises your soul…
CREATIVITY. CADENCE. CORE DESIRED FEELINGS. What it takes to make good stuff in the world. Notice when your dream has come true. If you’re addicted to accomplishing things, you might miss the fact that you’ve actually accomplished something pretty awesome.
You probably have notebooks of ideas. You may have ideas you haven’t told anyone about. There are ideas that the cosmos is waiting to tell YOU about it. Stop. Shhh. Did you hear that? It’s your next big idea. Stay still long enough and you’ll hear how to make it happen.
We do it for “love,” we do it for spirituality, we do it to polish our halos. We do it because some relationship books tell us to. We do it to look good…
Dreaming is a solution, a soul elixir for so many emotional ailments. The mere act of dreaming is a life-affirming endeavour. Dream. Envision. Fantasize. Imagine…
“Successful” Female is at the podium. She’s giving a talk on how to be “successful” as a woman in business.
I’ve been to a goodly amount of women’s conferences. So much life and power at those events — and sometimes, unfortunately, a big dose of density. It goes like this…
Dreams that don’t come true need to be grieved. The dream itself needs to be honoured and buried and mourned. It’s not just about dealing with the pain of not getting what you wanted, it’s about going deeper to look closely at what the dream was actually for. This is a subtle concept we often miss in the healing process when something ends. You see, we’re not always sad for the reasons we think we are…
I’m on a few airplanes every year. “Few” is a relative term. Maybe a lot of airplanes. And, having five planets in Virgo (tho’ my Sun is in Gemini, FYI), I like things just “so.” I love my systems, my best finds, my compartments, and my comforting things. (This is way less neurotic than it sounds.) Here’s how I keep it all together and cozy on the road…
You can work out your family of origin issues, and neuroses, and past life traumas with your shrink or your shaman. You can talk talk talk it out all day long (I know, I’ve done it.) You can trace the cause of your wounds and why you’re so stuck. But at some point, eventually, who cares WHY you’re stuck…
“Open, gentle heart. Big fucking fence.” The advice I give on Love that took the longest time to learn.
Protect your heart so that you can keep it wide open.
Small things. Teeny tiny gentle things. Just one small analogue choice a week can silence, soothe, and interrupt patterns that need positive interruptions. You can do it. You must.
New Friends Forever playlist. Heart melter.
I N C L U D E S A U D I O • Most of us don’t need more advice or constructive criticism. We need to be witnessed in what’s working, in what we’re doing “right” to create our ideal life.
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Here’s an uber practical how-to and pep talk about generating your core desired feelings.
You’re choosing – all the time. If you’re slogging away at a job you don’t love, look at it this way: you’re choosing to make a living to pay your rent, support your kids, fuel your dreams. Be in the choice of it — that’s where your power is. You’re in a relationship that’s causing you pain — you’re choosing to be in it. Maybe staying will lead to essential growth, or a break through, or deeper love. Or not. But you’re choosing to be in or out. Be in the choice of it — that’s where your power is.
The concept of ‘ease’ confounds most of us. Why? Because of thoughts like these: Pay your dues. Put in your time. Prove yourself. Meet expectations. Soldier on. Nothing worthwhile comes easy.
Fill your day with Creative Genius-inducing environments and actions. Imagine it.
Choosing quality is an investment in your best self.It frequently requires patience. It always requires love.
Letting go makes way for something closer to your truth… which is always more beautiful. Always.
Out of what needs to be done in your life — work, household, creativity — what do you do best?
more excitement, more often = way more to be excited about.
Go without so you can go for the gold. Grab the mic. Make the ask. Whatever happens, the results will be unforgettable.
Do guide words really add to manifestation prowess? Dunno. But they do help delineate where you’ve been and where you want to be.