Divorce? Balance and striving? Longing to help? Your questions are multi-layered and beautifully articulated.
Q and A
Grief, memory loss, and the purpose of life… it’s a Q&A Palooza.
I receive so many substantive, well-written, messy, articulate, deep, precise questions. Gives me hope in humanity, actually. In this eps: grief, enlightenment, whether or not we should indoctrinate our children, the meaning of life… you know. Regular stuff.
When “safe distances” restrict our love.
“I’ve gone through my entire life holding everyone at a safe distance… how do I make friends now?” Our fear of judgment prevents us from getting the love that we’re longing for. Twisted, no? But being a stranger to someone doesn’t have to be an impediment to intimacy. This is where courage comes in.
On psychics + clairvoyants. To call or not to call?
I think external psychic input can be extremely valuable for navigating. I’ve had seers on my payroll. And… We can often sense what’s coming ourselves—we just don’t recognize our own power. Free will, free will, free will. And PS: free will.
Keeping it real and keeping the peace: A few tips for family visits
My fellow grown up, let’s get you centered in your truth and prepped for family gatherings… so you don’t end up in the bathroom drunk-dialing your therapist. I have some ideas for staying sane (and ideally: being your most loving self), even if you want to get the hell out of there.
The dance of self-forgiveness
So many of us grip our mistakes because we never want to make them (and hurt anybody) again. But the moving forward can only happen when you can really forgive yourself. It’s possible. And there’s a sequence to it.
When you feel like you have nothing to offer. (And our obsession with productivity.)
When you feel like you have nothing to offer—TRUST your rhythms. Rest. Regenerate. Do what it takes to be well. Our culture confuses productivity-output-achievement with self-worth.
Create a “What I Trust” list. And exhale.
I’ve gotten in the habit of creating a “What I Trust” list before a big gig, or when any situation feels a bit wobbly. Often we’re so fixated on firing up endorphins, we forget that feeling assured and comforted is where the real power is. Calm and centered is magnetic. So… what do you trust?
Arguing with your inner critic? There’s a much better way.
The first thing to do with that inner critic voice is to have compassion for it. (This is counterintuitive because we live in a performance-based culture that thrives on judgement.) Approach with love—then instead of creating further separation from your heart, you’re building a bridge.
Making new friends as an adult: Tenderness and expansion.
Making new friends—it’s never, EVER too late…
Are we each other’s reflection? Yes. And No.
Are you attracting jerks because you’re a jerk? Maybe. Maybe not. Sometimes the jerk is there to show you how you do NOT want to feel or be treated—because contrast is one of our most powerful teachers. The flipside: what they may be here to illuminate is how you DO want to feel and who you truly are.
Q&A One-night Stands
Where do I stand on one-night stands? Are they soul satisfying… or just a distraction in your pants? In this episode, I open up about holding out and putting out.
