I often hear “women are our own worst enemies” in terms of our culture. I’m tired of that argument. I think everyone is their own worst enemy, and I don’t think it’s about something women have specifically against each other.
Self Expressed
What to do when things suck. (hint: don’t gloss over it.)
When you’re feeling out of your soul zone and something crap is happening…accept that it’s happening. I know. Believe me, I know. This may sound super flaky and totally impossible. And yet…this counsel is at the heart of most Eastern mysticism. Don’t deny what’s occurring. The power to change what’s happening comes from accepting it first.
what’s the ‘big real’ of what you’re doing?
There is a Big Real behind everything we do. Sometimes it’s a negative Big Real. Sometimes it’s a positive Big Real.
Integrity first, then hustle + 10 fresh lessons on money
On Team D we ask two questions: #1: Are we in integrity, doing something good and useful? Yes? Great! Then we proceed to question #2: How do we move boatloads of our goodness?
Serving up a fresh batch of money nuggets, from random theories to daily habits.
The Bright Privilege
Sometimes, my heart is so openI can’t tell if it is a gaping wound or a portal for everything that ever was and ever will be…
Just Love. (My most epic declaration of desires and demands, inspired by Eve Ensler.)
You know what I want? I want JUST LOVE. Something so pure it transmutes my terror of not getting what I want into what I want the most: JUST LOVE…
Unconscious acceptance. Which is to say, What shit are you putting up with?
We do it for “love,” we do it for spirituality, we do it to polish our halos. We do it because some relationship books tell us to. We do it to look good…
A testimony to the future
I bless the path that showed itself to me
astute, blind, courageous, clever, faithfully
I forged and floated
to now.
You have no jurisdiction here (a poem for boundary-making)
The outline of my being
shines brighter than
agreements I made before now…
Here’s what to do when you’re feeling small. Reframe your power.
What I love the most is truth, and if I’m going to be of service — and I’m devoted to being of service, then I have to tell you: I feel so small today. I see the pain. I see the joy. I see the beauty. I feel the global scope of what’s happening, and… I feel really, really… small…
The Chorus (A poem for those of us always trying to get ahead.)
Chorus:
The long time of loud striving
the symbols of success
keeping time in my head
always a quarter b-b-beat behind…
choosing feral
That tired beautiful animal in me needed to die,but not like a sacrificial offering…
New, little big deals. Is this the week you do what you’ve been scared of?
My friend Robindra promised he’d show me some DJ ropes (because I wanna spin and mix and stuff when I grow up). He got a gig in North Van and said I could tag along for the night. So I Facebook’d about it, mentioned the locale, said it was a great way to kick off my birthday week, and I put on my black high tops to head out…
A righteous conclusion about easing up on righteousness…
Shakti — the force that animates, tenderly fierce, the wild mother girl crone wonder woman. It’s one of my Core Desired Feelings. Calling on the Divine Feminine. For you… Tap into this playlist and let your SHAKTI rise…
Come Closer
Desire enchants you to the woods
and has you push through the muck
with the patience of a Lotus.
Come closer.
Search everywhere for your keys.
And then she makes you drive all night, desire,
With no map or insurance.
The (All New!) Ask-A-Friend Survey… and my bestie & me getting cozy
You can download the all new Ask-A-Friend Survey here! And then, go ahead. Send it and get closer.
Name your god
Listen to me
I am one of you
desirous broken open perpetual…
Use your dissatisfaction to start a personal revolution
Gratitude, joy, anticipation … all powerful forces for positive mind-states and manifesting goodness in your life. And then there’s dissatisfaction, heartache, resentment. And guess what… those are also powerful forces for positive mind-states and manifesting goodness in your life. Yep. Because those emotions are real. They are part of your wholeness. They count.
Gorgeous, gritty, vibrant, black & white, four colour, luminous …. joy. What’s it look like to you?
Capture an image of joy. Your version of it. Whatever trips the joy circuits in your psyche and body. Show us. Grab your iPhone and snap it now, or pull it from your Pinterest board, or reach into your archives. Post a joy visual, tag it with #DesireMap — and help us see with our hearts how to rise to life.
Your relationship to destruction & Goddess Kali.
You know — right this very minute — what’s not working in your life. You don’t have to think about it for too long. The question is: How do you feel about destroying what must be destroyed in your life?
How I revolutionized my relationship to “doing”: Meet The Divine Medicine Woman & The Impeccable Street Sweeper
I began to create the inner — and outer — conditions that helped me make “my medicine”, my art, my best work… I had to sledgehammer some mental structures. I unstrapped years of “shoulds” off my back — and I found wings – massive wings.
We need to know about your joy. (And other conversations of fulfillment.)
We need you to tell us your good news. Tell us how deeply in love you are. Tell us how your life is rocking. How free you are these days. Tell us how wonderful your family is. We need you to light up our realities. Don’t shrink from sharing the story of your good fortune. Give us examples of well-loved living. Give us evidence of the rewards of courage, that it pays to hold out, or to go wild, or to burn prayer candles…
The guy on my street who prays.
Every week or so, I notice this guy on my street sitting on the curb between parked cars. Crossed legged. Spine straight. Facing the same side of the street every time. He’s become our urban Buddha statue, reminding us to be still….
I’m loving…Spark Seekers, The Good Life Project, and bliss.
Groove-gasmic music, magazine covers you want to lick, and MoreLoveLetters.com… My latest “I’m Loving” list for you.
Inspiration hunters, Circle of Fire launch, and blaming your parents (don’t do it anymore): The July Roundup
July 2012 Roundup: We wiped out threats to creativity, faced the fear driven questions and helped Malawian girls stay in school.
What do you suck at?
When you cop to your shortcomings a number of wonderful things can happen. You become more accessible to the people around you, you invite other people to step up and shine, and you create space for support to come into your life — you actually don’t have to be awesome at everything…
Make changes without criticizing the past — your future will thank you for it.
We look at how we over worked it, or how we missed the mark, or all the reasons it, they, you, me, we fell short. We start to shrink the value of the past so that we can justify taking new aim, or giving notice, or taking the leap that will move us in a new direction….
interview how-tos and the glory of 11th hour changes. monthly roundup
February 2013 Roundup: You’re down to the last minutes, poised + ready to go after months of planning and jamming, when suddenly… you want to throw up. Embrace the potential genius of the last-minute knowings.
open up any way
open wide. give your desires words. out loud words. tenderly gaze of the eye to eye. expose your craving anyway you must, under a blanket or backed by a rented band. reveal your intentions, clean. stand there, vulnerable, waiting.
the soul of what you want to create: an interview with Hiro Boga
Whenever I talk to Hiro Boga, I know I’m in the presence of…true presence. Rare and lucid is she. Hiro is a master intuitive who has helped thousands of clients, including me, fire up their creative sovereignty — the ability to rule your inner world, with dignity and intention. I spoke to Hiro the other day, and the conversation was luminous, indeed…
