3. Relationships begin and end when the planets and your Soul say so. That could be a short interlude, a life long marriage, a guardianship. All things end, give or take, when they are actually meant to end.
We can move gracefully. We can resist. That’s freewill. Either way—now, later, the next life… we’re always becoming more conscious and loving. (That’s the whole point. Love more. Now or later. Now is better.)
Where things get problematic is that the unhealed part of us (ego) likes to name reasons that relationships end or shift. That reasoning usually comes in the form of blaming ourselves or blaming the other.
Relationship shifts are likely to happen because of pain-causing events or circumstances. Ongoing disappointment, betrayal, not having our needs met. It’s the boring spiritual fact: we tend to wake up through suffering.
It’s rare that everyone involved has the courage—at the same time, to say, “this has run its course, let’s evolve into a new form.”
We get attached. Of course we do! This is the nature of relationships! It’s beautiful. Until… the pain-causing events or circumstances test us.
4. Relationships are a dance of needs. We have unconscious needs and we have very conscious needs. Needs change, some needs recede, some become more pronounced. The energy of two people alchemizes the needs each of them bring—for better or for worse.
5. There is no one way to have a “successful” relationship. We have karma, conditionings of culture and trauma. Every dance is different.
