How to extract your energy from the painful past.

SEPTEMBER 30, 2026

Extract your energy from the painful past.

This is the most powerful, creative, ENERGIZING, stabilizing move that you can make in your life.

Yes there is pain to heal in present-tense.

Past events create emotions that circulate in our minds and energy field. We have to tend to those emotions with total compassion—the fear, anxiety, grief that are the results of what happened… give those energies all grace and good care.

But as for the memories of the stressful events…

the mental replays of the incidents…

the rumination on the suffering that is robbing you of creating life force… we can break the habitual recall.

If your past is haunting you, walk in the other direction.

Starve the hungry ghost so that the ghost can cross over and find peace.

Here’s how to extract your energy from the past:

Understand that conflict feeds on attention. When we feed the painful past with our attention, we are not healing. (And yes this may have us question the merits of some types of ongoing talk therapy and other psycho-spiritual modalities.)
When the painful past memory surfaces:

a. Do NOT criticize yourself for thinking about it. We just lovingly notice, “I’m thinking about that incident.” Then…

b. THINK ABOUT SOMETHING ELSE—SOMETHING UP-LIFTING.

I repeat: think about something else that’s uplifting energizing. Something beautiful, comforting, positively energizing. Hum if you need to. Notice what’s in the room you’re sitting in. Think of anything else (positive) to extract your energy from the past. Think about the future if that helps.

Interrupt the painful inner dialogue mid-sentence. You may feel like you’re being rude to your wounded, or pissed-off self. This is not cruelty. This is leadership.

^^^ This is spiritual warriorship and mind-training and the path to liberation. This is Queen + King consciousness.

^^^ This is how we use our mind to clear up karma and dissolve habituated thinking. Every time we extract our energy from the past, we are un-dulling the mind. Everytime you think about something that is *not the past* you are becoming more conscious and creative.

^^^ This is the life changing, creative power of CHANGING YOUR MIND.

A handy visual: It’s as if the past is a fire and you’re deciding not to add more wood on the fire. Don’t add the thought… the wood to the fire of the painful past. Then the pain calms down.

This we know: Energy flows where your attention goes.

You don’t have to play the same game over and over. (Unless you want to—the mind and the Inner Child find replaying pain familiar and comforting. You need to help them heal.)

You do NOT have to recapitulate or review your past in order to make progress.

Celebrate knowing better. That’s it. The victory is that you know better now! You’ve moved on. You’re here now.

You can make decisions from Presence.

Don’t have meltdowns and fights with old memories. It’s a waste of energy.

When you extract your energy from the past you will be forming new neural pathways. There’s a heap of research to prove this. And those NEW neural pathways will transform how you think, what you say, how you move through the world.

K, quick review to sum up centuries of mortal coil and enlightenment teachings:

When a painful past memory surfaces, whatchya gonna do?

Think about something else that’s uplifting.

And what’s going to happen?

Something better.

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