When we stay attached to our experiences, we can create suffering. So the healing inquiry is: Are you willing to give over one painful experience—and the suffering that came with it—to your heart for healing?
forgiveness
What happens when you stop arguing with yourself… Loving kindness.
True self love is to accept ALL parts of ourselves. Our neediness, delights, pains, talents… Light and shadows. ALL of us. Without criticism.
True self love steers us away from seeking signs from the Universe that we’re “worthy.” Self love is a remembrance of our Divinity. We are Love itself.
Aim for transmutation. Not improvement, not incremental change… TRANSMUTATION.
Transmutation isn’t a slow burn; it’s a wildfire. Our inner fires are being reflected on the outer landscape.
This is why we practice
Looking so hard to find our passion, but the best self-help is… self-compassion. It’s not HOW we practice—it’s WHY.
The dance of self-forgiveness
So many of us grip our mistakes because we never want to make them (and hurt anybody) again. But the moving forward can only happen when you can really forgive yourself. It’s possible. And there’s a sequence to it.
How to wish someone well—in a way that will blow your life wide open.
Converting bitter resentment into blessings…
the goddess of grief: getting to the other side. (and there is always another side.)
Grief is one of the most powerful Goddesses. She swallows your agony and lets it tear her apart. Beautiful birds fly from her belly – each one an insight into life and your power. Grief brings the whole flock to your window and she waits and waits to reveal universal truths to you. She goes to the depths with you. She rises with you…
Show Me How to Love Myself—a Devotion
Show me how to love myself truly and entirely. Show me how to eat, sleep and move my body for nourishment, restoration, celebration. Show me how to embody everything that is my joy.
ARE YOU READY TO FORGIVE? The complicated, gritty path to grace.
ARE YOU READY TO FORGIVE? The complicated, gritty path to grace. It’s complex. It’s confusing. It’s deeply particular. It’s the through-line of most mystical teachings: Forgiveness.
How to be truly wise? Rock your paradoxes.
True wisdom usually holds and transcends opposing points of view. Wisdom knows that there is always an exception to the rule, that there is a time and place, and that a case-by-case approach is divine protocol.
The Higher Purpose of Conflict
There’s no way around conflict, you can only go through it.
Examine your envy
You just never can know the machinations of someones else’s Soul — their karma, their dharma, their story. Maybe they’re learning precisely what they need to learn in this lifetime to become self-actualized, maybe they’re struggling to get free, maybe they’re an enlightened being who’s come to stir shit up so we can learn compassion. Life only knows.
What if forgiveness isn’t about forgiving? Thoughts on consciously relating to people who have hurt you.
When I approach forgiveness as a goal, it actually blocks me from my truth and love. In the past, when I’ve set out to forgive someone I just get all twisted up with who did what and why, and I start looking to validate my rightness. …
You’re going to hurt someone.
You’re going to hurt other people. Even though you don’t want to. Even though you don’t mean to. To no fault of your own. You’re going to hurt someone. We’re all bumping up against each other with our cravings and sensibilities, reaching clumsily for fulfillment…
Eventually, you have to stop blaming your parents.
A shrink friend of mine said the most common pattern he saw in human behavior was that people didn’t start really living until their parents died. That’s a lot of lives only one third lived. That plague-of-a-condition stymies us from breakthroughs and realizing astoundingly positive possibilities for humankind. It’s that serious…
How To Be Classy When It Doesn’t Work Out The Way You Expected. The Grace of Loss.
Loss brings out our truest self. And while natural grace doesn’t come naturally to all of us — especially when we lose — it can be cultivated…
what’s one dumb thing that you used to believe in?
The One Is the One because you say they are. It’s the partner you choose, the partner you declare sacred, the partner to whom you vow, in your own way, to love like they’re the only One.
the goddess of grief: getting to the other side. and there is always another side.
Grief is one of the most powerful Goddesses. She swallows your agony and lets it tear her apart. Beautiful birds fly from her belly–each one an insight into life and your power. Grief brings the whole flock to your window and she waits and waits to reveal universal truths to you. She goes to the depths with you. She rises with you…
no excuse for bad manners
So next time your mother is a bit… well, you know how she gets. Or your typically grouchy neighbor is a grouch. Or…
What it means to forgive
I am wondering if enlightenment relies on the forgiveness formula. As The Course in Miracles puts it, “Forgiveness is unknown in Heaven, where the need for it would be inconceivable”.
how to apologize
This is where many apologies can go south, when the hurt person says, “Yah, you totally screwed up, you’re a goof, and your mother dresses you funny.” Naturally, you may want to sling it back or retract even your best laid mea culpa. But just take a deep breath. You may have to endure a few pot shots and some venting; that is part of reconciliation.
