We need to heal.
We need each other.
We need each other to heal.
Furthermore…
Relationships are vehicles for healing.
And that’s my thesis on love in these times.
relationships
The hard questions to ask for committed relationships: a conversation about love with Susan Piver
What is the difference between a love affair and a relationship?
Forcing opinions or earning wisdom
We can soapbox, we can motivate, we can even convince people to see and do things our way. But even if someone chooses the more “evolved action” you’re suggesting, it doesn’t mean that they’ve just taken an evolutionary leap.
The union. The bliss. The bind…Friendship is EVERYthing.
I want to go deep into this conversation about creating Fulfilling Friendships. I’ve got lots to say about engaged listening, self respect, breaking up (when necessary), and celebrating our friend-loves. I’ve also got plenty of opinions and practices for self-compassion, deep spiritual devotion, healthier relationships with our damn phones, and better quality sleep.
Aim for transmutation. Not improvement, not incremental change… TRANSMUTATION.
Transmutation isn’t a slow burn; it’s a wildfire. Our inner fires are being reflected on the outer landscape.
Self respect is a spiritual practice.
We fight for causes, for relationships, for our children, for our co-workers… but it can be terrifying to fight for ourselves. This is where sisterhood is particularly powerful. When our girlfriends see us over-extending, and they look us in the eye and say, “Stop. You don’t need to do this.”
The most powerful possible Yes to women
…to the dark, the spacious, the sweet, the jaded, the women who live as certain as light rays, who renovate broken boardrooms and policies with justified anger and overwhelming Love—
Love of inclusion, of ecology, of bone solid Truth—Love of Love.
“My way of being is changing…”
Some Heart Centered members have been working with these devotional practices for a few months now. Our collective practice has settled into a trustable rhythm. There’s room for all of you to be carried on the momentum.
What it feels like to be held by Life
I feel like everything in my life was training for the times we are in. All of the practices, the dark nights, the devotion. And, not-so-ironically, this is the time when everything I’ve been creating—practices for staying centered and tapping into Spirit—are coming in verrry handy. We all have medicine to offer.
Gratitude unites us. Say it—sing it—give it. (A thank you video.)
Gratitude is a form of MEDICINE. It helps us connect to the power of the present and to each other’s hearts. And there is so much to give (and receive) right now…
6 things I know about active letting go
I have a RELATIONSHIP RELEASING Guided Reflection. You’ll receive visualization and reflection practices to create a sacred relationship container that can be blessed—all parties are honoured, and then offered up to be set free. This is for full letting go, by which we mean: forgiveness.
Building a sacred container for our relationships—an esoteric approach
Bonding, laughter. Support, healing. Comfort. Solidarity. Union. Care. Mercy. Joy. Friendship in romantic partnership, and with family, teams, classmates, neighbours. Sisterhood, brotherhood, humanhood. Becoming a better friend to yourself.
Healing for every kind of relationship.
When fear or frustration blocks the flow of Love and connection, it’s time to pause and work from the heart space—bring it ALL into the heart for guidance and deepening.
When (not) to give up
This episode is full of contradictions, so if you’re looking for a straight shot—it’s better to look within. As always. I start in the realm of general life stuff, then we move into the deepest possible query: choosing to stay alive.
The Principles of Flow. And how to ride it.
When we say, “We’re going with the flow,” what we’re really saying is that we’re riding The Creative Principle. The stuff of LIFE FORCE. Flow isn’t New Age chillaxin’—it is alert relaxation. Wide awake trust. When you’re in the flow, you’re constantly responding to the subtle cues that Life is giving you.
How to be classy when things don’t work out as expected
Loss brings out our truest self. And while grace doesn’t come naturally to all of us—especially when we lose—it can be cultivated… if you go out of your way to be grateful. Let me tell you a story. It all starts in the ladies room, in a snowy city, five minutes before my curtain call…
Making new friends as an adult: Tenderness and expansion.
Making new friends—it’s never, EVER too late…
Are we each other’s reflection? Yes. And No.
Are you attracting jerks because you’re a jerk? Maybe. Maybe not. Sometimes the jerk is there to show you how you do NOT want to feel or be treated—because contrast is one of our most powerful teachers. The flipside: what they may be here to illuminate is how you DO want to feel and who you truly are.
How to offer support for someone feeling suicidal (…and hope for anyone in that painful place)
May our suffering transform into liberating strength, and our despair into an incredible beauty that carries us to joy over and over again. And with deepest humility and respect for each person’s path I say: May these words save lives, and may those lives be well lived and wildly loved.
Love, transactionality, and the “5 people” you hang with
We hear this from motivators: “You are the average of the 5 people that you surround yourself with.”
Morality, deep beauty and Faith: How you coping these days?
I am examining where in my life I can be more impeccable in linking desire to deed. CARE-FULL. I am making space to breathe more deliberately. These times call for deep breathing so you can hitch your passion to mindful action. So breathe.
How to be a revolutionary for just love
This episode is about our personal activism. I’m talking about how we can get justice, without incurring too much karma. I’m talking about how to be a revolutionary for just love.
GOOD MANNERS and some wuv. We could all use more of them.
There are still some basic good manners that should prevail no matter our generation, station, or affiliation. Here’s what it might mean to be classy, kind, and considerate whenever you are able (and we are almost always able).
Summoning all cosmic beings for support? It’s better if you just focus.
You know how when you’re really messed up and you reach out to EVERY friend? You text them ALL at once in case the one person you really want to talk to isn’t responding IMMEDIATELY. And then you feel kind of dirty after because you got all frantic and spread your nuttiness around when really, you could have just connected with your one friend who tells you the truth every single time? I think it works the same way with angels and cosmic guides.
Women, boundaries, and spirituality. The perfect storm.
In my experience, boundary obliviousness is part of the initiation into wholeness. I don’t think you have to warrior your whole life for it, but it’s a passage to self-agency that most women seem to have to go through. Boundaries help us expand our consciousness.
But what’s the MOTIVE? (And BTW, pure motives RULE).
But what’s the MOTIVE? (And BTW, pure motives RULE). Same gesture. Same joke. Same service. Same policy. How can you spot the selfish intention when the branding is so glorious? Or how can you sense the true wisdom when the delivery is so 2000-and tacky? How can you really hear someone when your judgement is clouded by…judgement?
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[VIDEO] The difference between boundaries vs. creating barriers.
It’s not very peaceful. Being on guard all the time is anxiety-inducing. Protect your heart so that you can keep it wide open.
Why jerks show up in your life.
We attract jerks to burn karma — old agreements to be broken in current time, vows to be rescinded, slates to be wiped clean. We attract jerks for contrast — jerks show us what deception and manipulation feels like. They show us how we DON’T want to feel — which is excellent intel for knowing how we DO want to feel.
When you’re done fighting for it. The upside of finally giving up.
Do you know the story of the man who was hitting himself over the head with a hammer? “Why do you keep hitting yourself with that hammer?” a shocked passerby asked him. “Because,” the man replied, “it’s going to feel so good when I stop.”
Walking away, music history, and not trying to heal other people. 9 of the Best Things I Ever Did (Volume 2)
I walked away. I held out. I weathered the craving to compromise. And wow, guys, having heart-centered high standards pays off. Big time. Life meets you where you honour yourself.
