CUES FOR HEALING FROM RELATIONSHIP LOSS

JULY 17, 2026

Hello, Love,

I’m feeling extra introspective right now. Mercury Retrograde is clean up vibes. So let’s talk about healing. Healing from break ups, specifically, but this can apply to many kinds of loss, shock and hurdles.

If you want to catch up on this series… read about relationships + cosmology

Or some of my life challenges of the last three years (fun! 😂) that have led to so much healing.

CUES FOR HEALING FROM RELATIONSHIP LOSS

There’s a terrible AI trend happening called “divorce glow up.” Don’t fall for it, it’s mostly AI-generated videos of shlumpy men and women who leave their presumably neglectful spouses, and then start going to the gym, the tanning bed, and finally get the right hair cut.

Et voila! Shlumpy divorcé transforms into hot babe. And presumably, old spouse has much to regret. It’s the revenge glow up.

But the best glows up will happen naturally, and revenge will have nothing to do with it.

I HEALED BECAUSE I STOPPED AVOIDING GRIEVING.

I tried to avoid grief. I was like, “I’m going to be one of those chicks that moves ON. Why NOT jump into a thing with that guy who I’d totally compromise on?! Don’t I deserve a big… bandaid?!”

Except… no. That’s not my style. With 4 planets in Virgo + Libra Rising I like things clean and harmonious.

The reality was that I was in deep shock that, even though we were so committed, my partner and I couldn’t save things. And by that I mean, I was gutted that my love was not the miracle substance I wanted it to be. Failure. At love. Of all things.

Following Higher Guidance meant sacrificing the dream.

Someone asked me, “You weren’t together very long, so why the big grief?” Ahem. Clearly they did *not* know me, because when I love, I am OBVIOUSLY ALL IN. Geez. And besides, time does *not* direct the current of Love. Love bends time.

I HEALED BECAUSE I LET MYSELF BE THE NEEDY FRIEND.

I let myself ask for validation from some people, even though it felt inappropriate and weak.

Lonnnng voice memos, like personal grief podcasts to Christine. I was too much in need to even ask how she was doing most of the time. “Hi. It’s me. Please tell me I’m doing the right thing. ASAP. Thank youuuuu.” She was my lighthouse.

Chela and I talked on the phone for FIVE hours straight one day. I sobbed, she witnessed. All while we unloaded our dishwashers and made dinner and went for walks.

I asked Sukhi to do her work on me: a bit of cacao and a microdose of mushrooms, while we did deep verbal processing. I don’t micro dose anything, so this was a leap—and it was one of the turning points in my healing.

Joshua and I walked laps around the lagoon every week. Laps talking about spiritual teaching. Laps in silence.

I REPRIORITIZED MY BODY.

I shed 25 pounds. I talk about that in this post, How I got my body back. (This partially had to do with getting out of a moldy living space and doing a major mold and metals detox.) I started painting my nails again (with an eco-friendly brand.) I started dancing again.

And BTW, my hair stopped going grey so quickly. In the final year of the relationship, it was coming in crazy fast. Once the grief subsided, I saw that the same silver strands were growing in as brunette again. Huberman pod (I’ll link below) talks about greying reversal as it relates to stress.

I called my naturopath to run labs on my hormones and check my supplements, because I was feeling anxious. Spiritually, I felt resilient, but I could tell that the anxiety was biochemical—and when you know that, it becomes much easier to work with it.

MY MANTRA WAS: KEEP STEPPING FORWARD.

The universe sent me cues to face forward. It was the week in which I knew we’d be having the conclusion conversation. My heart was raw. This all happened that same week:

I got a text from a matchmaker who met me four years ago, before I got into my relationship. “Danielle, I’ve got a gentleman in LA I’d like you to meet, are you still single?”

A new male friend (married) asked me for lunch to talk business and life. I was emotionally spent when we met up, so when he asked how I was, I fell apart. Turns out he runs men’s groups and works with couples. He was the best confidant I could have asked for that day.

Another male friend who I hadn’t talked to in ten years messaged, “How you doin’ doll?!”

Another male friend who I hadn’t talked to in MORE than ten years rang, “Just wanted to hear that voice again.”

The Divine Masculine was reminding me of my Divine Femininity. It gave me strength. I knew both my partner and I would be held as we parted.

I LET GO OF A LOT OF PHYSICAL THINGS—VERY QUICKLY.

Letting go of material things is usually pretty easy for me, but this was ceremonial self compassion. I did it with grace—that was KEY. I wasn’t hammering trinkets and tearing up love letters in fits of rage. I was blessing & releasing. Clothes, objects that had painful associations. I closed shared subscriptions, deleted playlists.

Because I removed it all with the highest intention for both of us, the stuff management was a form of pain management.

I DID WRITE + BURNS EVERY WEEK

I didn’t wait for a Full Moon or New Moon, I did write + burns and salty baths A LOT, 2 or 3 times a week. Cranked the mantra, wrote the release, incanted hard when I lit the pages, prayed in the bath, rinsed with love. For me, this is better than months of therapy—working at the energy level.

I DID THE CENTERING PRACTICE LIKE IT WAS MY JOB

I did The Centering Practice in every possible variation. Seated in lotus. Walking in the forest. Breathing into my heart center, seeing the full light spectrum. For a minute when I felt anxiety, many times a day. For 21 minutes working with the frequency of indigo light (cleansing!) For the past pain and for future pleasure.

This was everything, really. This is the energy work. This is the morning meditation. This is the anxiety dissolver and the hope-generator. This is the bridge to Higher Self.

The Centering Practice is glow up technology.

And this is a beautiful segue to…

The Centering Practice. It’s here for you (always free).

If you want me to walk you through it, I’m doing it live on Sunday, July 19 (it’s free.)

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You bring ONE thing you’ve been carrying, and we’ll work with it.

I’ll send you prep notes, and The Centering Practice is yours. Use it daily.

Can’t be there live with me? I’ll send you the replay. But if you can be in the room, be in the room.

This is one practice that can actually change everything.

For all the kinds of heartache and loss, I wish you deep healing, merciful healing.

I wish you transformation.

I hope you see the Divine Plan and expand.

We heal all the time.

WITH LOVE,

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Sisterhood, CEOs, Coaches: We just launched the BLESS & RELEASE FACILITATOR KIT: Holding space for letting go and conscious creation. It’s a set of workshops and circle formats for you to offer to your people. Add to your power kit here.
“I’ve been walking alongside Danielle LaPorte’s work for years, and Bless & Release arrived exactly when I needed it. The idea that closure is an inside job—and the simple power of the Centering Practice—helped me stop wrestling with things that were never mine to control and start integrating the lessons they came to teach.
If you’re exhausted by hustle, certainty, or trying to force life into a shape it doesn’t want to take, this book is a beautiful invitation to soften, trust, and carry your wisdom forward while setting down the struggle.” — Lee Currie, OG Desire Map Facilitator

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