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What do I do with the voice that says, “You can’t do that”? I might have answered this in the past with straight up encouragement, like a lot of self-helpers tend to do. We think we should just speak louder than the critical voice inside of us. You WILL rise to the occasion! You CAN figure it out! You HAVE got what it takes! While those declarations may be true, I think we’ve been missing a step toward inner strength-building. “The first thing to do with that inner critic voice is to have compassion for it. ” This is a counterintuitive[...]

This question from Gina was delivered with such beautiful vulnerability: “Formulating this question into words has me in a wellspring of emotions including sadness, loss, inadequacy, and deep curiosity. I’m going to focus on the ‘well’ and curious parts and believe that in my asking there is hope for an answer. Here goes: How do you navigate making new friends? I’ve thought about this question a lot and have come to understand that at stages of life we make friends naturally: in school, in afterschool activities, in college, then as couples/moms,[...]

Love, Sacred and sweet. Hectic and heavy. I struggled with mornings for a long time. There was a kind of resistance to starting the day, even when there was joy. And I’ve known that mornings are so significant to how the rest of my day (my LIFE) unfolds, so I decided to take a deeper, psychological look—and it shifted everything for me. With a little help from my psychotherapist, essentially I created my own therapeutic approach to mornings. Welcome to MORNING THERAPY with Danielle! I am not a therapist nor am I clinically trained in anything. But I’m[...]

Fellow Self Help Keener, I know you KNOW that we’re all connected and “oneness consciousness” is on your to-do list. We ARE interconnected. Howevah! This Truth needs some discernment when applied. Because not every jerk that comes into your life is a reflection of your own shadowy repressed inner jerkness. Episode 4 is live! It’s a Q&A feature. Tune in or scan the highlights: I am a 100% yes to the theory that we attract certain people into our lives to teach us certain things. And—everyone is not your complete reflection. Here’s what I m[...]

The Q: “What’s your opinion on one-night stands when it’s ultimately not aligned with what you want in your forever partner? I know women who wait years of sexual deprivation because they’re holding out for The One.” Where do I stand on one-night stands? Are they soul satisfying… or just a distraction in your pants? I open up about holding out and putting out. Holding out for The One (or not) I’ve been the woman holding out for The One. That was wise for a while. I needed to heal after a divorce. Reclaim my body for myself. Do the deep h[...]

In “Spirituality for grown-ups” (Eps 1), we’re exploring the definition of spirituality… one that’s more rock ‘n’ roll than religious. More liberating than dogmatic. A definition of spirituality that allows us to be more gentle with ourselves; that embraces duality and nuance; that promotes self-agency, Real Love, and inclusiveness, and JOY. This episode is especially for globally concerned deep-feelers. If you’re a worrier… you’re not alone. I have my own frets… Am I making myself accessible enough, but still boundaried in a healthy way?[...]

Dear Heart, The purest, and most understandable, definition of self-love is self compassion. It’s merciful and tender and very very accomodating. It’s the kind of Love that goes way deeper than Self Care Fridays, or thinking you’re being good to yourself because you “let yourself” have a nap. (Naps should be basic, okay?) It’s easy to love yourself when you’re at your best—when all your hard work is paying off. You think, “I’m awesome. I have my shit together. And I SO love myself because I’m awesome and have my shit together.” Bu[...]