Tell me everything. How’s your heart? What can I do to help? What’s good for us? These 4 VERY SIMPLE, VERY DIRECT QUESTIONS will nourish every kind of relationship.
Essence + Spirituality
I’ve been betrayed — severely. Thank God. Betrayal is such a defining experience — it lays your heart bare, and that’s a bloody, good thing. Bloody good.
Being betrayed by another person is often (not always,) a reflection of how you were betraying yourself. It’s a lie looking back at you.
Taking planetary alignments into consideration, bringing love into politics, and nature consciousness into commerce is not spiritual bypassing. That’s spiritual practice.
If you’re paying attention to your choices, you’ll cognitive dissonance pang once in a while. And it can be a smidge shamey. But when you apply compassion to that sensation it shows itself as your conscience. And it’s a signal to get into alignment with your higher nature. Either examine and change your perspective, or shift your actions.
Transmutation isn’t a slow burn; it’s a wildfire. Our inner fires are being reflected on the outer landscape.
Going with the flow isn’t about being passive or laissez faire. It’s not about just letting things happen “to you.” It’s not aimless wandering. Going with the Flow is a co-creative act.
The ability to discern isn’t a purely intellectual faculty—it’s the benefit of being more identified with your soul nature. And it isn’t a narrowing of focus. It’s actually a wider, more inclusive point of view—as if our hearts were open apertures. When we see more of our whole selves—shadow/light, pain/power, then we can see more of the whole truth around us.
I always have a prayer or two on my fridge, I tuck them into my day planner, and I like one on my altar. I’ve also folded them into a bunch of rosemary sprigs that I left on a friend’s porch. Easier access for divine connection. Having prayers in view makes a difference to your heart-mindset.
I used to believe that my unmet longings were a punishment. The longings pushed downward to a small loneliness.
I healed some. I learned how to grieve career paths, friendships, partnerships, and children I wouldn’t be having. And, amazingly, grief brought me so much closer to being alive. Grieving for my faded dreams woke me up.
I’ve tried recapitulation and obsessive, neurotic over-attachment as a means to self-improvement. Funnily enough, it doesn’t seem to work.
The Full-Hearteds will be called crazy, idealistic, rebellious, too soft, too New Age, irrational, impractical, so angry, disloyal, righteous, moralistic, idealistic, unrealistic, unreasonable… and (gasp!)… utopian. It won’t be the first time, it will not be the last. That’s more than alright. This moment was made for the Full-Hearteds to let love rule. We see the beautiful ideal and we know that we’re all a part of its unfolding.
Resilience isn’t about toughening up—it’s about adaptation. And adaptation is about inclusiveness. And inclusiveness is the natural state of the heart.
The Initiated Woman has bled. She’s bled from blind decisions that sliced her esteem; she’s bled from unguarded boundaries being obliterated; and she’s bled willingly, with love, because that’s what you do when people you adore are anemic or they’ve been punctured by life—you give them some of your blood. Here, I have lots, it’s fresh and warm. I’ll make more.
I’ve decided I’m going to be a Hope Detective. I’m going to track, study, broadcast it. Because nihilism sure won’t turn things ‘round. I believe: Heart people are everywhere. New worlds are underway. The solution is seeded in every problem—we just have to… detect it.
What you can’t control:
The weather. Mean people. How people interpret history. How people interpret you.
What people think about anything and everything. What people say to you. What people say to anyone else. Who or what anyone loves. How anyone feels about anything.
The Prayer of St. Francis
Lord, make me an instrument of Thy peace;
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is error, the truth;
Where there is doubt, the faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
And where there is sadness, joy.
Solid conclusions only come from an inclusive point of view.
Everyone foraging for the happiness that was always right there to be had.
With unlimited stillness we are all feral, finding home.
Very philosophically speaking: things stick to stuff that’s stuck. The more freely energy circulates, the healthier a system is.
This is the call in our global pause: to let go of old ways so that a beautiful ideal can emerge––from each self to our social systems.
Deep wisdom that spans from the microbiome to farming activism to hospice care. I asked Zach Bush to talk to us about the foundational grace of biology so that I could connect the dots to the human spirit. Why does a cell and a human choose to live more vibrantly or choose its demise?
Gratitude is a form of MEDICINE. It helps us connect to the power of the present and to each other’s hearts. And there is so much to give (and receive) right now…
I have a RELATIONSHIP RELEASING Guided Reflection. You’ll receive visualization and reflection practices to create a sacred relationship container that can be blessed—all parties are honoured, and then offered up to be set free. This is for full letting go, by which we mean: forgiveness.
Looking so hard to find our passion, but the best self-help is… self-compassion. It’s not HOW we practice—it’s WHY.
Bonding, laughter. Support, healing. Comfort. Solidarity. Union. Care. Mercy. Joy. Friendship in romantic partnership, and with family, teams, classmates, neighbours. Sisterhood, brotherhood, humanhood. Becoming a better friend to yourself.
When fear or frustration blocks the flow of Love and connection, it’s time to pause and work from the heart space—bring it ALL into the heart for guidance and deepening.
Words incant, invoke, destroy, and create. When we speak with high intention, we live in Higher Love.
The “Mother Wound” and the “Father Wound.” Loaded labels floating around the self-help circles. I have a suggestion… Let’s go deeper with this while respecting our experience, and not causing unnecessary harm to others.
What an opportunity to know our strength and love! These powerful happenings are calling us to fill out all of our capacities as communitarians, humanitarians, caregivers, creatives, leaders, children, and beloveds of The Infinite.
Here’s the thing, if you take care of your most tender and essential needs—you’re stabilized. If you protect your gentle nature, listen to its powerful cues—you’re good to go.